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Why Women Fake Orgasms and the Seductive Power of Pumpkin Spice: The Best Sex Research of 2014

Why Women Fake Orgasms and the Seductive Power of Pumpkin Spice: The Best Sex Research of 2014:

There are so many everyday things we don’t fully understand. For instance, we know the temperature at which point most common materials will burst into flames. Most famously, paper ignites at 451 degrees Fahrenheit. This is called its flash point. But we still don’t know why objects catch fire. For all our incredible understanding of abstract concepts like quantum physics, we still fail to understand some of our most common everyday experiences like fire … and sex. This is why sex researchers diligently study our sexual flash points–what ignites our passions and our pleasure. This year, those methodical researchers of what makes us moan moved us a little closer to understanding that most intimate and universal expression of human life: sex and seduction.

Here’s the best sex research from 2014:

1. Women Who Fake Orgasms Have Better Sex

For most of Western history, the assumption was that straight women faked an orgasm to make their partner feel good about themselves–they moan to make their man feel better. But as researchers at Temple University and Kenyon College discovered, women are far more complex than that. Many women fake an orgasm for the benefit of their partner, but women also fake orgasms to alleviate their own insecurities, minimize the influence of past negative experiences, and to trick themselves into believing they’re enjoying it and thus increase their own pleasure. Women fake it for better sex, both for their partner and for themselves.

2. Women Have Better Orgasms If Their Partner Is Funny, Rich, Or If Their Friends Think Their Partner Is Hot

In less surprising news, researchers announced that women enjoy more intense orgasms if their partner has fat pockets, makes them laugh hard, or if their girlfriends seem jealous because their man is a hot piece of ass. Of course, all of this falls in line with what we know of human nature. Money is freedom and freedom feels sexy. Humor is relaxing because it dispels anxiety. And humans love competition–if your friends are a little jealous, your choices are affirmed by their opinions which you trust and value. Research suggests that when women momentarily escape their anxiety, feel free to enjoy themselves, and if their partner is considered desirable, they moan and quiver their way into far stronger orgasms. A woman’s climaxes of pleasure signal to her in a language of moans and shrieks that she picked a good mate.

3. Women Don’t Believe They Want Sex As Often As They Do … While Men Think Women Want Sex Far More Often

Female sexuality is a dark enigma science still fails to understand. This may be partly due to women not fully understanding their own sexuality, as well as the influence of societal expectations. Researchers point out that women’s sexual intentions are hard to measure in a lab setting. Yet, they theorize that based on women’s self-reports of their sexual interest, women often under-report their desire. Would you believe that men seem to more accurately interpret a woman’s desire? Even more interestingly, women do tend to think that other women act like they don’t want sex when they so clearly do. Like men, women seem to accurately interpret the sexual interest of another woman. It’s their own desire they misinterpret. Obviously, social biases play a large part in this behavior. Due to the long shadow of slut-shaming women are incentivized to think they are less sexual and that their competition is more sexual, or “sluttier.”

4. Women Are Turned On By the Smell of Cucumber, Men Are Turned On By the Smell of Lavender, And Everyone Is Turned On By the Smell of Pumpkin Spice

The reason why Pumpkin Spice lattes are such a big holiday season hit may have nothing to do with how they taste and everything to do with how they smell. Recent research from the Smell & Taste Treatment and Research Foundation, found that certain aromas make us hornier than others. To the makers of perfumes and colognes this is no surprise, but the smells that work best may surprise you. The pleasing aroma of lavender or pumpkin increased the blood flow to a man’s penis by a whopping 40%. For women the smell of cucumber combined with licorice did the trick, increasing blood flow to her vagina by 13%. But so did the scent of pumpkin pie. It also increased her arousal. One interesting note: no smell reduced a man’s arousal … but for women certain smells like cherry and barbecue charcoal did turn them off. Good to know! So, if you’re looking to heat up your sex life, skip the rib joint and bring home some licorice and a pumpkin spice latte. Also, save the pizza for after sex, since the smell of a slice of cheese pizza only increased a woman’s blood flow by 5%.

5. A Man’s Sexual Peak Isn’t 18 … It’s More Like 32

The sex toy company Lovehoney wanted to identify who the horniest people were by age. Since they sell sex toys, lubes, and all sorts of kinky products, this makes perfect business sense. They asked folks to fill out a survey. The results from their survey upended the old notion that a woman’s sexual peak was 35 and a man’s peak was 18 to 19. According to their data: men peak sexually at 32, while women have their best sex at 26. One factor researchers may have overlooked in the past was how confidence affected both genders. Men tend to do better when they feel they know what they’re doing, this sense of sexual competence would require time for them to climb that learning curve. And women tend to feel sexier when they’re confident with their body and sense of themselves. Perhaps, they often need time to get over any lingering adolescent insecurities to feel comfortable to let loose in their sex lives. One interesting side note, 46% of respondents reported they were having the best sex of their lives … right now. Science calls this the “recency effect,” or in other words, the best you recall is what you did last.

6. Sex and Driving Is Far More Common Than You Imagine

Researchers at the University of South Dakota were curious about how often people had sex while driving. What would you guess? Ten percent? Twenty? A quarter of respondents had enjoyed some sex while behind the wheel? Try 33% of men …reported they’d had sex while driving. The most interesting finding was how the numbers lined-up. Only 9% of women said they’d had sex while driving. It may not be that men are willing to try riskier sex. If you do the mental math, the physicality makes sense. It’s just far easier for a man to have sex while driving than a woman. As passengers women were far more likely to fuck in a moving car. Here’s where the numbers nearly even out. According to the data, 29% of women said they’d had sex as a passenger. One other thing to keep in mind, the respondents were college kids in South Dakota. It would be interesting to compare those numbers with college kids in New York or Houston, or anywhere that offered more to do than South Dakota. One final note, they were pretty good at fucking while driving, only 2% of respondents said they’d crashed while having sex behind the wheel.

7. Researchers Have Invented A Sex Calculator To Determine How Many Calories You Burn

This one is as straight-forward as it sounds. Curious to know how sex compared to exercise for burning calories, researchers in the United Kingdom devised an online calculator so you can discover how many calories you’re burning while chasing some orgasms. For 2015, you might wanna use this calculator to track your sexual aerobic exercise. You may be surprised to learn just how incredibly healthy sex is for you. Hell, you may start skipping a few workouts a week in favor of some early morning fucking. Spin class and the weight room aren’t the only ways to get a sexier body … you could just have more sex.

8. Science Declared the Vaginal Orgasm Is Sort of A Myth … So, Get to Know the Clitoris!

Back in 2007, Jeffrey Spike, a bioethicist at the College of Medicine at Florida State called the G-spot a “medical fraud.” He added that “the G-Spot belongs in the same category as angels and unicorns.” That seems a bit dramatic but he has a point. As we’ve pointed out, female sexuality remains a vast mystery, but we are beginning to learn a few solid facts to build a foundation of understanding upon, and one of those facts is that the vaginal orgasm is a myth and that the key to female stimulation is the clitoris. But the little love button is far more complex than previously believed. In utero, all babies start out with the potential to be male or female until hormones trigger the differentiation and development of the male body. This would mean you could say that a man’s penis is just a very prominent clitoris–the anatomy under the skin is nearly identical.

Clitoris and Penis (without skin)

Meet the Female “Penis” and the Male “Clitoris”
courtesy of HuffingtonPost

Now, if you’re interested in turning science into sexiness, a woman’s clitoris extends down from the prominent clitoral hood above her vagina, and can be stimulated through all sorts of pleasurable pressure applied to the outer lips, the inner lips, as well as the inner walls of the vagina. So, don’t just focus on the little love button and instead explore all the ways you can bring her to ecstasy.

9. If You Have Sex With More Than 20 Women in Your Lifetime You Reduce Your Risk of Cancer

In what may be some of the best cancer-fighting research ever, scientists have concluded that when a man has sex with more than 20 partners over the course of his life, he diminishes the chances of prostate cancer. According to research there is a slight statistical advantage if your sexual partners are women, but for all men it seems that, just like eating some of those famous cancer-fighters like blueberries, dark chocolate, and acai berries, the more often you enjoy a good fuck the better your chances are you won’t develop prostate cancer. Maybe it’s time you grab some dark chocolate, a box of condoms, and get out there and use your dick to fight cancer.

10. Men Feel Better When Women Orgasm

Women may not believe this but … a man enjoys sex more and feels better about himself when he brings a woman to orgasm. In fact, of the men in the study, the majority felt it was a man’s responsibility to bring a woman to a moaning, shrieking, convulsing climax. Additionally, women agreed that it was a man’s responsibility to help get them there. Yet, they weren’t particularly inclined to discuss their lack of an orgasm. They didn’t want to answer that silly age-old question that comes up in pillow talk, “So was it good for you?” Instead, women kinda hoped it would be obvious as the weather. Meanwhile, the dudes in the study reported that they greatly benefit whenever a woman talks about her orgasm, how much she’s enjoying sex while they’re fucking, and when she communicates what specifically gets her off. You hear that, women? Guys want to give you orgasms. And they want your help to know how. Now, for the guys reading this, according to what women are reporting, you should keep in mind that women feel a pressure to orgasm. They feel that men want to win that prize, or what-have-you. Since she feels a certain pressure to please her man, as we already learned, a woman will often fake an orgasm to satisfy her partner’s ego and protect his feelings. Of course, they also fake a big O for themselves, as we also learned. But wouldn’t it be better if there weren’t all those fake orgasms?

It seems that the path to better sex for straight people is simple: men need to let curiosity lead and not look at a woman’s orgasm as a target or a goal, but rather as a reward for their shared sexual exploration; while women ought to learn to trust that most men genuinely want to do whatever pleases a woman, and it would totally help out if a woman could be a little bit patient with her dude and kinda show him and tell him what makes her moan. If both sides lean toward the other, together, women and men will start getting off a lot more often and we can make it real.

Here’s a New Year’s Resolution: More Real Orgasms in 2015!


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