Wedding night consummation just isn’t as popular as it used to be, if several surveys and studies done in recent years are to be believed.

According to Jezebel, a recent survey from a wedding stationary company says a quarter of couples don’t bang out the night they get married.

Another survey by UK money-saving website VoucherCodesPro

The reasons include:

  • Groom got too drunk (24%)
  • Bride was too tired (16%)
  • Bride got too drunk (13%)
  • Had to watch the kids (11%)
  • Had a fight before reception ended (9%)
  • Needed to leave for the honeymoon (9%)
  • Pulled an all-nighter partying (7%)
  • Groom was too tired (4%)
  • Neither felt like it (4%)

At first blush, this seems insane and vaguely saddening, since wedding night sex used to hold such high acclaim. But when you think about it, the vast majority of people these days have already had sex many times before their wedding night, which takes away some of the luster.

And besides, there’s always the honeymoon. Or the night of your second marriage.