First of all, the G-Zone exists. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. Some women love to have theirs played with. Others, not so much. I call it a zone rather than a spot because that’s what it is: an entire pleasure arena.
The G-Zone is about two inches inside her vagina toward the front of her body. If you’re really in it to win it, here’s my step-by-step plan for discovering and exploring her G-Zone.
Think “seek-and-explore” rather than the “search-and-destroy.”
SET THE SCENE
Remove anything that keeps track of time. This is not the time for timing. Make sure you have secured whatever level of privacy makes you both feel comfortable. You do not want to be interrupted. Keep the lights on (not too bright, of course.) There is going to be lots to see here. Make sure the woman is comfortable – comfy bed and linens and pillows. This pursuit requires a very relaxed partner.
ASSUME THE POSITION
Have her lie on her back with a pillow under her head and one under her hips and backside. Ask her to bend her knees and let them fall naturally to the sides. This will give you lots of access to every inch of her and a stellar view.
TIME TO GET WET
Using plenty of oil or lube, massage her vulva. No feathery fingers here—a real, full-on juicy massage will get her really open and ready for what’s to come.
GET IN THERE
Once she is amply jazzed—that is, her clit is hard, her outer lips are swelling and her inside is wet—slide two fingers inside her and curve them up and in. They only need to be a few inches in. The texture of the G-Zone will be apparent – spongy and raised and different from everything around it, swelling and making itself more known as she become more aroused.
IT’S ALL ABOUT THE MOTION
Use an “up, in, and down” or “come hither” motion slowly and repeatedly to tease her G-Zone, following her lead for speed and pressure.
BLENDED IS BEST
Keep in mind that the best use of her G-Zone—like the best use of all of her zones, really—is in combination with other zones. So, ask her what other parts she would like you to put into play. This can include sucking on her clit or using a vibrator, sucking her nipples, teasing her behind with her fingers. You get the idea.
KEEP AT IT
As long as her body is responding, for goodness sake, don’t stop. She will likely be lifting her hips up to meet your hand, breathing heavily and moving in rhythm with your movement. Keep it up for as long as she can stand it.
LET IT RIDE
Encourage her to relax and allow the orgasm to come. Assure her that she’s safe and you are there for her. (Note: She may feel like she has to pee. Tell her that is totally normal and that likely means she’s about to squirt.) And if not, the orgasm that likely will result is one she’ll be thanking you for a long time to come. No pun intended.
Adapted from Jenny Block’s O Wow: Discovering Your Ultimate Orgasm. Edited for content and length.