Let’s get one thing straight: there’s nothing sexy about shooting a sex scene. That remains true even when said scene features two of the most genetically blessed actors on television. You know exactly who we’re talking about.

Last Sunday, the world finally got the hook-up we’ve all been waiting for—on a boat, no less. There they were, Jon Snow and Daenerys Targaryen, intertwined like vines on a gargoyle. And though it seemed like for that brief moment in time that the dragons, zombies, battles, and betrayals that make up Game of Thrones’ central nervous system all melted away, leaving only the King in The North and the Queen of Dragons getting it on, that wasn’t actually the case.

Beyond the fourth wall, there were big camera, bright lights and grumpy crew with breakfast burrito breath. The sex was simulated and even Kit Harrington and Emilia Clarke had trouble seeing past that whole incest thing.

So how did director Jeremy Podeswa block all those exterior forces out to craft what might go down as one of the most memorable sex scenes in television history? Let’s let him explain:

“With Jon and Dany’s scene, the important thing for me was that it wouldn’t be prurient in any way, that there’s a very strong undercurrent in that scene, he told Indiewire. It was shot very, very simply. It’s basically one steady push in shot to Jon and Dany and then that very important look between them at mid-level. And then a one-shot looking at Jon, then looking at Dany.“

Podeswa was sure to highlight the fact that his focus wasn’t on the sexual gratuity that has come to define Game of Thrones in recent years. This wasn;t about tits and ass (though Jon’s posterior did make a memorable appearance.) It was about a deep and intense connection between two people, which is why Podeswa chose to focus on their faces instead of their bodies.

“The real story within the story, was actually what was going on with their eyes and what’s happening — there’s an understanding between them that even though they know in some part of them that they shouldn’t really be doing this, they cannot not do it,” he said. “There’s some element of destiny that’s brought them together, and they can’t fight it.”

Read the rest of Podeswa’s interview with Indiewire here.