Everyone has a person in their life, whether it’s a friend, relative, or acquaintance, who loves to talk about themselves. You kind of mention it in passing, like, “Gary only cares about himself” or “Carol really likes to talk about herself, doesn’t she?” Yet, you’re never really sure if the word “narcissist” is entirely applicable. But there’s one way to find out: just ask them.

According to a new video from New York Magazine, one that includes a robot, a dragon, and an old-world goddess, that’s really the best way, because a narcissist will own up to it. They more or less agree they’re as egotistical, self-focused, and vain as you think they are. So it’s a lot easier than you think. Just work on your segue.