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When You Slut-Shame Kim Kardashian, the Shame is on You

Photo illustration by Playboy; image: [@kimkardashian](https://www.instagram.com/kimkardashian/?hl=en)

Photo illustration by Playboy; image: @kimkardashian

I’ve never seen an episode of Keeping Up with the Kardashians, and you can definitely find multiple tweets on my timeline attributing everything from the end of the world to Donald Trump’s rise to the popularity of the Kardashian clan. So trust me, I get it. The Kardashians are attention-seeking fame addicts. We all know that.

However, today I found myself going to Kim’s defense. (Not that she needs it. The woman has endured more public media shamings than most people on the planet, and yet still she thrives.) On some small, crazy level I found myself relating to Kim. I’ve posted nudes online and I’ve written about it. Granted, I’ve taken like one-billionth of the crap Kim takes for it, and if I post a nude selfie it doesn’t trend globally, but the reactions are all the same. Say what you will about Kim K, but the conversations she provokes every time she gets naked are necessary and revealing. Pun intended.

You would think we would be immune to this. She’s just doing what got her famous in the first place, so it’s certainly not shocking. At the very least you would think we would be BORED by her antics by now. But no. Kim gets naked and, like clockwork, the slut-shaming and (now that Kim is a mother) the mom-shaming commences.

First of all—SHE WASN’T EVEN NAKED. I mean, yes, she implied she was naked, but what could we see? Nothing. I, for one, feel cheated by this whole controversy. If I’m going to spend my time writing about a Kardashian, I would hope to have a least seen some titty, and yet here we are, with everyone clutching their pearls.

The slut-shaming that follows in her wake every time she posts a nude is disturbing; misogyny, jealousy and moral righteousness are the flotsam and jetsam radiating off dat ass. She made her name from a sex tape, and I see glimmers of the “she’s asking for it” mentality everywhere, justifying the judgment of both men and women on all sides of the debate.

The infuriating nature of slut-shaming is that the same men who watch hours upon hours of porn and beg for nudes from women all over the world via text, webcam and skywriting will then take to the Internet to shame a woman who is comfortable with her sexuality. You men calling her a ho, I dare you to let me look at your browser history. In other words, you can’t have your “ho” and fuck her, too.

What you’re really revealing is your lack of security in your own manhood that you can’t handle when a woman uses her sexuality on HER TERMS.

And what? Does it make you insecure when her sexuality is not about you? I see things like, “If I were Kanye I would never let her post those pics.” You think Kanye “lets” Kim do anything? That woman does whatever the fuck she wants. She’s not his property, and when you make an ignorant statement like that you’re telling the world you want to piss on every tree and call it yours. I know it’s hard to believe, but the world doesn’t work that way anymore. YOU DON’T GET TO DEFINE THE WAY WE FEEL ABOUT OUR SEXUALITY. I know this is a revolutionary fucking thought for a lot of trolls out there typing away in your troll caves, going from woman to woman lashing out at the feminists for being feminists or lashing out at Kim K for being a ho. What you’re really revealing is your lack of security in your own manhood that you can’t handle when a woman uses her sexuality on HER TERMS.

The less confident elements of society want to put women in labeled boxes IT GETS TO CONTROL. This is a ho. This is a wife. This is a mom. This is a sidepiece. I call bullshit. Society’s grip on female sexuality lessens more and more every day. Every time Kim Kardashian posts a nude selfie she redefines what “shame” even means and where the line in the sand even is—whether you agree or disagree with what this means for humanity—and the fact of the matter is that Kim changes the landscape of what’s acceptable because we have accepted her for her sexuality. Kim K built a fucking empire with hers. What have you done with yours today? Maybe masturbated into a few socks?

Image: [@Jaymoola](https://twitter.com/Jaymoola/status/706864929635115008)

Image: @Jaymoola

The women who throw Kim under the bus enrage me the most because they hide behind this false sense of superiority. It’s moral righteousness at its worst. As far as female figures go, Kim isn’t “respectable.” She doesn’t live up to the images of a 1950s housewife. She certainly isn’t Betty Fucking Crocker. Ladies, WHERE IS THE SISTERHOOD?? Now more than ever we need to band together. The feminine energy is rising, we are changing the face of the world. In fact, so many of us are single we are changing the political landscape. That doesn’t mean we have to agree with each other about everything. But let’s try to withhold the judgment about our bodies and our sexuality. You can’t be screaming #bodypositivity out of one side of your mouth and “What a whore!!!” out the other.

The jealousy comes from all sides male and female. And it’s aimed at a new breed of woman. A woman who came up with Sex In the City. A woman groomed by Paris Hilton at the dawn of social media. A woman who knows that attention equals eyes. And eyes equal money. Kim Kardashian has made millions doing nothing but being sexy AND SHE IS HATED FOR IT. She does what we all do on social media. She’s just better at the game. Hell, in some respects, she invented it.

Image: [@BetteMidler](https://twitter.com/BetteMidler/status/706914093567873024)

Image: @BetteMidler

So SHAME ON YOU if you are a man or a woman or Bette Midler and felt compelled to type negative words into your little box connected to the world, reminding the world that Kim’s “a hoe” or isn’t “wife material” or has “#noselfrespect.” Kim might be a navel-gazing narcissist, but she pulled in upwards of $75 million dollars last year— $75 MILLION. She didn’t do that in a void. Like it or not, this is a fact. People watch her. They love her. They hate her. They idolize her. This isn’t Kim’s fault. It’s OURS. And it all started when millions upon millions of us watched her sex tape.

Just like all of us partaking in this new world of social media, Kim Kardashian wakes up and feels like she wants some attention. It’s Monday, and she’s bored. Maybe she isn’t selling enough apps or perfume. Maybe she’s feeling fat. I don’t know. So she posts a censored nude selfie with a ridiculous caption about how she has nothing to wear. But she’s Kim Kardashian, and the Internet, predictably, blows up. Kim goes about her day doing Kim things—probably things like working with her trainer and making sure Kanye takes his meds—while the rest of us plebeians take the bait and devour her image, bit by bit. Turn it into memes. Argue about her. Support her. Talk about her. Write about her. In fact, she’s probably eating a salad in Beverly Hills as I’m sigh writing this very post.

Kim is just doing Kim. She’s always just been Kim and love her or hate her—she’s here to stay. Is she telling the world that their daughters should idolize her? No. They just do. She didn’t ask to be a role model. WE MADE HER ONE. And that’s on us.


Bridget Phetasy is a columnist for Playboy.com. Twitter: @bridgetphetasy

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