Lesbian Sex Tips for Men: Sex Toys And Erogenous Zones

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Lesbian Sex Tips for Men: Sex Toys And Erogenous Zones:

Jincey Lumpkin, Esq. is a sex advice columnist, former lawyer, producer of lesbian porn and an experienced lover of the female form. She has a unique perspective and insight on how to please women and she’s sure there’s a lot straight men can learn from how lesbians get it on. Here’s Lumpkin on tips and techniques for bringing sex toys into the bedroom, working her erogenous zones and the challenges of communication.

Playboy.com: Do you have any advice for us about erogenous zones?

Jincey Lumpkin: Every woman is different. I’ll tell you what works for me. I love having my hair pulled at the nape of my neck. I love having my lower lip bitten a bit—not too hard. I love fingers in my mouth, even on the roof of my mouth. Sometimes I want to feel my whole mouth totally full, probed, open. It makes me feel submissive and drives me crazy. I love hard kisses on my neck and hickeys.

Nipples—I love pretty much all nipple action. In particular, I love when she holds my nipple with her thumb and forefinger, and then licks, directly on the end. It’s a lot of pressure on the nipple, and so precise. Super yummy. Kisses on my hip bones feel good. Also inside the thigh. Scratches up and down my thighs are so sexy. The sensation of having your toes sucked is insane. I love anal sex. I don’t like too much hanging around the rim of my asshole, but inside—sooooo amazing.

Playboy.com: Do all lesbians use sex toys? Do you have any tips for men looking to introduce sex toys into the bedroom to a wary lady?

Lumpkin: Not all of us, but I like to! I love nipple clamps, because they give you that sensation of an intense hot circuit to your pussy without having to stay up there. Nipple clamps look a bit intimidating, so I stayed away from them for a long time. Don’t make my mistake! Vibrators rock, obviously. However, I have weaned myself off of a vibrator, because I was far too dependent on it and I lost control of my orgasm. I love glass dildos, too. And Betty Dodson’s vaginal barbell is so cool. It’s weighted, so it feels so different inside the pussy than anything else.

Just like anything else, I think you have to talk about the sex toys beforehand. Don’t ever push anything on your lovers. Chances are if you’re having a hot, frequent, open discussion about sex, you will be having regular good sex and your lady won’t be wary at all.

Playboy.com: What’s tough about lesbian sex?

Lumpkin: I’ve been in some relationships where all the talking actually hindered the sex. It was like I felt too exposed, too close to my lover. I don’t think it’s a problem with lesbian sex, per se. It’s more this idea that I have to maintain a separate sense of self in order to be turned on by the other person.

Jincey Lumpkin, Esq. is the “Chief Sexy Officer” of Juicy Pink Box. She’s a former lawyer, a diva and a lover of breasts. She pens sex columns in both The Huffington Post and Curve Magazine. Known as “Lesbian Hugh Hefner,” Jincey is widely recognized as an expert in women’s sexuality, having lectured at TEDx & Harvard University. Out Magazine named her “one of the most influential gay people in the world.” Follow her on Twitter @JuicyJincey.


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