Lesbian Sex Tips for Men: Threesomes, Multiple Orgasms

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Lesbian Sex Tips for Men: Threesomes, Multiple Orgasms:

*Jincey Lumpkin, Esq. went from lawyer to lesbian pornographer and she has a wealth of experience to share as a sex advice columnist. As a woman who loves beautiful women, she has unique insights on sex and she’s here on Playboy.com to share her lesbian sex tips for straight men on making out, threesomes and multiple orgasms. *

*Playboy.com: *I just want to get straight to business, but my girlfriend always wants a long make-out session before sex. Just how important is warming up a woman? How can I get more into making out?

Lumpkin: I think foreplay can sometimes be more sensual and satisfying than fucking. It's not a formula! "Touch boobs for one minute...eat her out for two minutes…" That's not fun for anyone. I love getting turned on. It wakes me up, and all of a sudden I feel everything in my body. My lover tells me dirty things. Her words are loud in my ears. I feel her lips on my neck and I press myself against her. My nipples get hard.

Don't consider foreplay to be a necessary evil. You like to watch your dick getting hard, right? Well, watch her get wet and see what that does for both of you.

*Playboy.com: *My girlfriend’s bi-curious and I’ve always wanted a threesome with a lesbian or another bisexual girl, but we’re completely in the dark as to how to get that going. Help?

*Lumpkin: *In my early 20s I was that girl, totally into ménages à trois, but don't be alarmed! Not every woman turns out to be a lesbian! But I can offer you some great tips that I've actually tried myself.

First things first, you can try to find a hottie online. Back in the day I used Adult Friend Finder with my boyfriend. Now you can also find people on free sites like OK Cupid.

Make sure that both of you are attracted to the person. I have seen a lot of threesomes go wrong because people only cared about making the threesome happen. Genuine chemistry is essential.

Going to a gay bar to pick up another woman is a bad idea. Lesbians are always on the lookout for straight couples trolling, so your chances of a hookup are slim to none. Sex parties are a better place to find other bi-curious or bisexual women. And hey, there's always the Vegas hooker if you've got the cash!

*Playboy.com: *Do you have any sex tips to give a woman multiple orgasms?

*Lumpkin: *I have multiple orgasms, and they are so delicious. I don't focus on trying to have a multiple orgasm—in fact, focusing on having an orgasm at all brings too much pressure into the equation. I find that there are certain factors that aid in having a super strong climax.

  1. Lots of foreplay. In particular, I love having my nipples bitten, sucked and played with. Sometimes it feels so good that I could almost come just from that.

  2. Slow buildup. When she takes her time to turn me on, I'm the one who is begging for her to keep going, to put her fingers inside me, to fuck me.

  3. Penetration and clit stimulation. I always have to give a shout-out to Betty Dodson, because my most intense orgasms happen when I'm being fucked deep in my pussy while still having my clit stroked. When I start to come, I try to squeeze my muscles tight, so that I can intensify the orgasm. I started crying the other day after I came really hard!

Jincey Lumpkin, Esq. is the “Chief Sexy Officer” of Juicy Pink Box. She’s a former lawyer, a diva and a lover of breasts. She pens sex columns in both The Huffington Post andCurve Magazine. Known as “Lesbian Hugh Hefner,” Lumpkin is widely recognized as an expert in women’s sexuality, having lectured at TEDx and Harvard University. Out Magazine named her “one of the most influential gay people in the world.” Follow her on Twitter @JuicyJincey.


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