First dates are the worst. The possibility that things will work out? Forget that. Dating sucks and considering most people can’t go 10 minutes without telling a lie, what’s the freakin’ point?

Bleak introduction aside, one thing that is known to, let’s say persuade people in telling the truth is alcohol—or truth serum, as I like to say. (I’ve never said that.) Because dating is such nerve-racking discourse, many of us order a few personality drinks to quell our nerves.

According to a recent study commissioned by online retailer WineBags, the drink you order can have impact how your date perceives you. As if you needed something else to worry about.

But let’s dig in. Of the 1,000 people surveyed, women found it sexiest when a man ordered craft beer (one that isn’t made from urine, presumably). Next in line was a non-alcoholic beverage, which I found surprising. Sure, this bold choice probably makes the guy appear confident, but, considering I’m the furthest thing from, I’ve chosen to be extra critical and say that’s boring. The third most appealing drink in the eyes of women is top-shelf liquor ($$$), followed by wine, regular beer and then mixed drinks.

Men, on the other hand, were largely attracted to wine drinkers. More than one-third of us, in fact. This was followed again by a non-alcoholic beverage, craft beer, mixed drinks, top shelf liquor and Bud Light-type beer.

Once a few bevvies have been consumed, however, things change, and you need to proceed with caution. If it appears you’ve drank too much, your date probably won’t opt for a second. Almost half of respondents regard a drunk date extremely poorly. And if you choose to drive home after indulging in a few too many, your chances at a second are even less likely, 69 percent say. (Don’t drink and drive. Don’t drink and drive. Please, don’t drink and drive.)

You probably shouldn’t push drinks on your date either. Seventy percent reacted negatively toward someone who encourages them to drink more than they’re comfortable with. Probably because it’s creepy and suggestive.

While booze comes with its share of social benefits (like being more confident in exploring our sexual curiosities) there is a clear line between social drinking and being a drunken fool. A drink or two is fine, but opting for shots to compensate for your shitty personality is something else entirely.