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Just the Tips: Can I Pay My OkCupid Date to Have Sex With Me?

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Q: I went on one first OKCupid date and she turned out to be an escort. She wasn’t working when she met me, but we had a frank discussion about her working life, and I was respectful like the nice, progressive, sex-worker-rights-supporting boy I am.

My question is, is it ok to ask about booking her professionally after a date? At the end of the night I was interested in taking things further, because I had a bone on, and she gave me a quick kiss, but that was it? Thoughts?

Sincerely,

Wood B. John


Dearest,

Legal issues aside, you might be good to go as long as you are comfortable with the idea of exchanging sex for money and that becoming the basis of a relationship. Will it be a Pretty Woman fantasy come true? Probably not.

That said, if she was, in fact, simply using OKC for her personal life, as opposed to trolling for clients, then an inquiry about using her services might come across to her as rather disappointing.

A quick kiss at the end of the evening indicates that she might be interested in you in a non-business context, as in, you probably wouldn’t have to pay her to have sex with you. But I’d venture to say that what’s at stake here is not whether or not it is ethical or “OK” to ask about booking your date professionally (she freely shared her line of work and we all know first dates can turn into virtually any kind of relationship—professional, sexual or romantic) but rather what you identify as the root of your desire. Did you find yourself aroused at the conclusion of your date mostly because you:

A. thought she was hot/interesting

B. were drunk

or

C. were kinda into the whole sex worker/escort thing

If the answer is A, then I would say pursuing a transactional relationship with somebody you are into romantically is unwise. If the answer is C, you should feel free to inquire about booking her, but do so with the knowledge that you are cutting off other options.

Of course if the answer was B. then all bets are off and you might wanna just drunk text her:

Wazzup. I got a sexy ethical question 4 u.

Come to think of it, that might be the best option anyway.

xK


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