For the past few years I have been having erections in public at inappropriate times, usually when I see a woman dressed in a revealing way. This makes it difficult to walk, and I’m afraid people will think I’m a pervert. I haven’t had sex in a year, but I’ve tried masturbating more, and it doesn’t help. Should I see a doctor?—J.P., San Francisco, California

Yes, unless she’s hot. While random hard-ons can be embarrassing, they’re common, especially among younger men. If this is truly a problem, follow the lead of generations of teenage boys by wearing a jockstrap or baggy pants. A guy who has the same difficulty posted online that he rubs his finger and thumb together to refocus, but since we just shared that, it would give you away. Continue to pursue assisted erections. And relax. This is not a long-term problem, and fewer people than you think are looking at your crotch.

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