Playboy Advisor: Is It Possible to Have Sex with a Ghost?

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Playboy Advisor: Is It Possible to Have Sex with a Ghost?:

Can you have sex with a ghost? I have a friend who insists the spirit of her dead husband visited her in the night.

—K.T., Indianapolis, Indiana

There are many possible explanations for what your friend experienced, including a waking dream. The least likely is a visit from her deceased spouse. The notion that the dead can satisfy the living dates at least to the Middle Ages, when virtuous women reported being brought to climax while alone at night by incubi (demons who attack men are succubi). One priest sent to rescue a 20-year-old maiden noted she “seemed rather to be afraid of being delivered,” and Chaucer observed that the incidents became less common after visits by wandering friars who specialized in assisting lonely wives. Besides religious guilt, chicanery also may be involved. In 1976 a medium from Florida, M. Lamar Keene, cowrote a confessional in which he explained the deceit behind instances of “astral necrophilia.” He recalled a colleague who boasted of being “a whore in the séance room if the occasion arises” and noted some clients who were led to believe a spirit could draw ectoplasm from the medium to produce—always in pitch-darkness—the body of a dead spouse or lover. The client would have intercourse with this body and find it satisfyingly solid and responsive. Keene said he was filling in for a female colleague when a customer asked him to produce her late husband for sex. It turned out the other medium had been penetrating the woman in the dark with a dildo. Keene also recalled a psychic who would masturbate while his “spirit guide” extracted from female clients lurid details of their sex lives.

After the girl I dated in college became a widow, we got together again. On the two occasions we had sex, my penis went limp after two thrusts. She dumped me for another man. Several years later the same thing happened with another widow. I’d never met the husband of the first woman; the husband of the second was an acquaintance. I’ve slept with two other women (nonwidows) without problems. Do men leave some sort of phallus-repelling substance inside their wives’ vaginas? If so, what’s the antidote?

—W.K., Los Angeles, California

You don’t give your age, but we suppose some men do well with this demographic. (Nearly 60 percent of women 65 and older are widowed, divorced or otherwise single, versus 29 percent of men.) Because you perform okay with women who aren’t widows, we suspect your anxiety was caused by the feeling that you were being watched. Let’s hope there are more entertaining things to do in the afterlife than that.

My girlfriend of many years passed away six months ago. I have many explicit photos of her, and they still turn me on. Is it morally, emotionally or ethically wrong to masturbate to them? Sometimes it seems ghoulish.

*—T.H., St. Louis, Missouri *

Not at all. You own your fantasies. And you can't help remembering her fondly in a number of ways, including as a lover.

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