I’m not really the shy type. My mom used to say I would “talk to a fence post.” I do, however, have many friends who are terribly shy and refuse to even speak to a lady who they might be interested. Thank god for Bumble and feminism. Below are some stories from similar types of shy dudes on Reddit about how they met the loves of their lives.

Went to a bar with a fellow shy buddy. I noticed a redhead in the corner that I had my eye on most of the night. Told him to check her out. He says, “I’ll go talk to her for you.” I thought, “Where’d he suddenly get the balls?!?” He pointed me out to her and told her I wanted to slow dance with her. She said OK. Danced, got to know her, started dating her. We got married 4 years ago and have an 8-year-old son together. She still gives me shit for being too shy to ask her to dance. Found out several years ago that my buddy worked with her dad and knew her, which explains why he was able to talk to her…

Met her at work as a student teacher. I was the student teacher and she was the cute girl who worked the Y before and after care program. I would play basketball at the school’s gym after school every Wednesday, and she took her YMCA kids into the gym to get gym time every Wednesday. At first, it was just me asking her if she minded me playing ball while she was in there with the little ones. Then it turned in to me playing knockout every Wednesday with the YMCA kids and her. Then it turned into me watching the YMCA kids play basketball while talking to her. And finally, it turned into HER asking me out for a beer after she got off work.

We were best friends all 4 years of high school and 2 years after we graduated I finally admitted to her that I liked her after drunk me told her about a dream I had of us getting married and having kids.

I liked her shirt. We were in a group conversation and I was thinking about how to tell her I liked her shirt, thinking about every possible way it was going to go bad. Then just said “Hey, I like your shirt.” It worked.

She was friends with my brother and they were in a show together at the local community theater. They came into my workplace to see if we would be willing to hang up a sign advertising their show. I had just gotten out of a bad relationship and was not looking for anything at the time, but when I saw her, she was the most beautiful girl I had ever seen. We talked for a few minutes and they invited me to go out to eat after their performance that evening. I don’t know how I did it, but I said yes and met them later on at a Perkins. My brother and his other friends ended up ditching her and she asked me for a ride home. I agreed, not knowing at the time that she lived 20 minutes in the opposite direction of where I was going. A few days later, she invited me to go out to see a show with her and some friends. Once again, her friends ditched her after the show and she needed a ride home. We talked a lot and I told her that I was pretty shy and not one to make the first move. She said that was ok and leaned over and kissed me.

I met my current girlfriend in jail. We were locked in a room 12 hours at a time every other day for about two months. We worked in corrections together. She had just started and was being trained in the Control Room. It’s a fairly small room and we were basically forced into conversation.

She wouldn’t like me wording it like this, but we were both wasted at a costume party and she came up and started slobbering on me. Still together 4 years later.

A tornado. We were friends, both studying music. I was pursuing my doctorate, her her bachelor’s. A few weeks earlier, a tornado had knocked a tree through my roof, so when I heard the tornado sirens going off as I left the grocery store, I decided to go to the large, stone and brick music building. She was there, along with many others, and we waited out what turned out to be a half-mile wide EF-4 in the basement. I tried to get home after but couldn’t get there. She went the opposite direction back to her apartment but came back to announce that she had power and Internet, and that we could charge our phones, let our loved ones know we were OK, and even sleep on the couch. I slept on the couch. The next day we went out to volunteer and give blood, and that took the whole day. The following day, since classes were canceled for the semester, I was going to leave to go spend time with my parents, but took her to lunch first to thank her. As of June we’ll have been married 2 years.

She straight up TOLD me that we would be going to the school dance together and there was nothing I could do about it. Married 8 years later.