There’s something fascinating about large-scale surveys that center around our sex lives. It’s probably because many aspects of sex are still generally considered taboo, which would suggest that studies on the topic are not only satisfying because they’re informative, but also because they’re a tad naughty. Not to mention, these studies help us establish where we fit in the mix of things so that we can either feel proud or dismayed by our own sexual habits.
There is perhaps no survey that more accurately captures a cultural snapshot of our modern-day sexual perspectives than Match.com’s annual Singles in America survey, which measures the collective responses of 5,500 singles of all ages, creeds and ethnicities across America. Here are the most interesting revelations gleaned this year.
MEN ARE THE “MORE ROMANTIC” GENDER
Toss the notion that men aren’t romantics out the window. Results found that single men are 26 percent more likely than women to make love a priority in 2017. The survey also found that straight men are 95 percent more likely than women to believe an emotional connection makes sex better. And what turns on men on these days? Female entrepreneurs, according to almost 40 percent of men, crushing the assumption that men are threatened by powerful and successful women.
MILLENNIALS ARE LONELY
Though they are 125 percent more likely than other generations to enjoy the process of making a connection (swiping, dating, etc.), 22 percent of millennials believe technology makes courtship more difficult, which could explain why nearly 60 percent confess that they are profoundly lonely. Admittedly, these results don’t help the general perception that millennials are a bunch of whiners.
SINGLES EVALUATE OTHER SINGLES BASED ON THEIR SOCIAL MEDIA
Something to consider when you update your dating profile: 42 percent of singles judge prospective dates by their social media posts, and primarily by their photos. Next, in descending order, single people evaluate grammar (39 percent), followed by their teeth/smile (37 percent) and finally, their clothes (35 percent).
PHONES ARE VERY IMPORTANT
Women are 92 percent more likely to negatively judge a date for having an older phone. This would help explain why those with older model phones are 50 percent less likely to get a date in the year. Like an older model phone, women were the likelier gender to judge you for a cracked screen. In fact, 45 percent of singles admitted they’d be turned on if you visibly turn off your phone during a date-—so that’s definitely a tip to keep in your back pocket.
THE BIGGEST TURN-OFFS
Poor social media behavior is the ultimate turn-off, the survey found. Someone who complains a lot on Facebook (58 percent) and being too active on social media (50 percent) are two of the biggest turn-offs. Singles agree that someone who voted for Trump (44 percent), didn’t vote at all (42 percent) and someone who changes jobs a lot (37 percent) follow in rank as the most prevalent modern-age turn-offs.
ORAL SEX MATTERS
Everybody enjoys oral sex; particularly, 88 percent men and 79 percent of women. If you need any further encouragement to indulge in some oral aside from it feeling fantastic, those who engaged in the acts had six times more sex in the last year and are 43 percent were more likely to have had a date. Men and women who like oral sex also have 21 percent more orgasms during sex. However, millennials were 66 percent less likely to enjoy the act for some reason.
REPUBLICANS ARE PRUDES
Though an unlikely pairing, sex and politics always seem to collide. The “Singles in America” survey is no different and found that Republicans are quite prudish regarding sex. The survey found that right-wingers are 50 percent more likely to require an emotional connection before having sex and are two and a half times likelier to believe they must be married beforehand. Republicans are also 50 percent more likely to have zero interest in sex and 43 percent more likely to have no interest in romantic love. To borrow a phrase: “Sad!”
THE CURRENT STATE OF DICK PICS
More than a quarter of single men have admitted to sending one, including half of millennial men. Interestingly enough, those who’ve sent a dick pic were 85 percent likelier to to have had sex in the last year. Less interesting and more concerning, men with children are 112 percent more likely to have sent a dick pic. When asked why they send such images, 61 percent said because they were asked for one; 45 percent said they wanted to turn the other person on; 39 percent said to flirt; and 39 percent said they did it to get the other person to reciprocate. However, 40 percent of men have sent a dick pic without being asked. When asked how women feel about getting dick pics, the top responses were: feeling grossed out, feeling disrespected and feeling violated. So maybe sending one on the fly is not a good idea, gentlemen; more rules about sending dick pics, authored by our Playboy Advisor, here.
GUYS CAN GET A LITTLE TOO HANDSY
Perhaps because of recent events, a growing number of women are admitting to receiving inappropriate contact from a man. Three in 10 of women confessed that they received “unsolicited” and “inappropriate” physical contact from a man this past year, including 40 percent of millennial women. And it would appear that this trend is only getting worse. Millennial women were 98 percent more likely than Gen Xers and 136 percent more likely than Boomers to have experienced inappropriate physical contact by a man in 2016.
SOME INSIGHTS ABOUT THE “F” WORD
We’re talking about feminism. For starters, nobody’s completely certain what it means. Thirty-seven percent of men and 47 percent of women define feminism as “women being equal to men,” while 43 percent of singles think it means “a lot of different things.” However, many of us agree on the issues women face: more than 90 percent of both sexes agree that violence against women is a top issue and just as many of us worry about equal pay and how rape accusations are handled.
BAD DATING ADVICE
Nobody likes receiving dating advice, despite it being Playboy’s business to dispense it. (We simply argue that your mom is nowhere near as qualified as our Playboy Advisor.) To be more accurate, 65 percent of us don’t. The most despised advice of all? “You’ve got to put yourself out there,” leads the pack with 37 percent. Coming in a close second is “Don’t be so picky” and finally, “It will happen when you least expect it.” All are pretty terrible blanket statements that fail to probe at the core of the problem.
UBER GETS YOU LAID
Probably the weirdest bit of information gleaned from the survey was that, by discussing your love life with your Uber driver, you increase your odds of getting laid by 213 percent. Depending on your priorities, it might be time to rethink #deleteUber.