If the Internet were an X-rated library, Showtime’s Sunny Megatron would play the part of sexy librarian perfectly. From her nerdy-but-cool glasses to her encyclopedic knowledge of all things kinky, there’s no way you wouldn’t listen if she told you, “Shhhhh…” Her new show, “SEX with Sunny Megatron” is wrapping up its first season tonight: if you haven’t tuned in yet, trust us when we say the seven episodes you’ve missed have been eventful.
The show examines sex from all the best angles: taboo topics, humorous habits, kinky new trends. It’s the type of frank, real-world talk about sex that has always made premium cable worth paying for. Typically, our host Ms. Megatron (who does not reveal her real name for privacy purposes) meets with an interview subject and together, they examine the sex life and kinks that get them off. Take for instance, her interview with a couple where the guy was jealous of his porn-star girlfriend’s on-the-job sex. Megatron brought a porn director to help them work through the situation. It’s the kind of couple’s-therapy intervention you’d never see on Dr. Phil.
Throughout her show, Megatron relies on calm curiosity, innate sexual intelligence and instant relatability to help viewers overcome any hesitation they may have about dedicating thirty minutes of their life to learning about clown fetishes or polyamory. Her goal is to “introduce you to worlds you never knew existed,“ but she’s aiming for more than that. The idea is to make it acceptable to want to get naked with a clown (or do any other seemingly unusual thing in bed).
We spoke with Sunny Megatron about her show’s first season and how she’s spreading the message of good sex and body positivity to the masses.
What’s the aim of your show?
"Sex with Sunny Megatron” is education veiled in entertainment. People tune in for the fun—the laughs, the sex, the heartfelt moments, and unbelievable twists without realizing how much they may learn. The information is so accessible they can start applying their newfound knowledge while the credits are still rolling.
As a sex blogger, you promote sex-positivity. How do you hope to inspire greater body awareness and sex play among your viewers, so that what they see on your show isn’t just a taboo “freak show” as much as an invitation for them to play?
MEGATRON: From the beginning it was important to me to find people for the show who were your average, everyday, North Americans of various body types, ethnicities, gender expressions, orientations, lifestyles, etc. I think we did a pretty good job of that. People need to see role models who are like them exploring their sexuality because it helps them feel more comfortable with the idea of beginning their own sexual journey. When people peel back the layers and understand kinks at their core level, they really don’t seem that weird.
PLAYBOY: What has been your favorite subject? Has anything been particularly surprising to learn about?
MEGATRON: It’s hard to pick a favorite—I’ve enjoyed so many! One that comes to mind is formicophilia, AKA bug crawling fetish. Bugs themselves I can’t stand—they’re a phobia of mine. But diving into the reason behind the fetish was really interesting. I learned that the appeal for Christopher, the gentleman in the episode, wasn’t necessarily the bugs themselves but it was first-and-foremost about the sensation [of bugs crawling across his skin]. That made sense to me. People dig sensation, whether its the tickle of a feather, a little love pinch, or an ice cube.
PLAYBOY: In your eighth episode, you visit a site where a flash mob turns into public sex. Can you explain this? How, as a journalist, do you introduce this concept to your audience?
MEGATRON: Public sex—also called “dogging”—is an extremely common fantasy, but the risk of getting arrested or exposing oneself to the wrong person stops a lot of people from exploring it. Those who are into dogging pick secluded, out-of-the-way spots to have outdoor sex that have little risk of innocent bystanders roaming through. They use various internet sites and social media to tell others where they’re going to be and when. The watchers, or “doggers” show up, watch the sex, and when its done they all go about their daily business. There’s an entire community of people who do this regularly.
Introducing a concept like this to my audience is really rather simple. It all goes back to relatability. Usually before any segment gets into sex, the audience has a chance to meet the participants and to get to know what they are like in their day-to-day lives. In this particular case we met a wonderful, older, professional couple with a large, happy family and a seemingly average life. They’re people who could easily be your neighbors, friends, even family members. There’s nothing weird about them and that’s the point of the show—that there’s really is nothing weird about sex.
PLAYBOY: When it comes to more sensitive subjects, like race play [where political correctness about race is explicitly rejected in the bedroom], how do you explore the possibilities without alienating viewers?
MEGATRON: As a biracial person myself, I have always felt very uncomfortable with the concept of race play. I’ve never engaged in it nor had I ever witnessed anyone playing out a scene like that before this shoot. The opportunity to watch a race-play scene and hear its participants discuss why it’s important to them took the mystery and taboo out of it for me. It did the same for viewers. What made it relatable was one of the participants we cast: Mollena Williams, one of the foremost authorities on race play. Most viewers won’t go out and try it because it is some pretty heavy-duty stuff. What the segment did do is give the audience the understanding to respect those who do engage.
PLAYBOY: Okay, clown sex? What is that?
MEGATRON: Just as it sounds—people dressing as clowns and having a sexy, fun time. Clowning is something I like to do and that I discovered early on in my sexual awakening. It gave me permission to be my true self in the bedroom. Most of my adult life I had been trying and failing to have that perfect sex I’d see in movies. You know: serious lovemaking on a bearskin rug, my every hair in place, makeup perfect, and a fireplace crackling in the background. In real life sex isn’t like that. It’s messy, silly, ugly; it involves funny and sometimes unexpected noises that certainly didn’t fit with the fairy tale notion I had of sex. Being a clown suddenly made it okay to do all those silly, funny, messy things.
PLAYBOY: On your show, you highlight the positive aspects of a healthy sex life. What would be your motto or life advice for someone to keep in mind on their sexual adventures?
MEGATRON: As I say at the end of every show, it’s very important to keep an open mind, stay curious, and be sex-positive—and I really mean that. It’s essential we do our best to let go of sexual shame. We need to not only stop judging others but stop judging ourselves so harshly. We need to be comfortable with being vulnerable and with talking to our partners frankly about sex. We need to figure out in no uncertain terms what we like and what our boundaries are. Most importantly, we need to live our lives in the most authentic way possible without compromising ourselves or our beliefs. That’s what I mean by the term “Sex Positive.” It’s not about having all the sex you can in every way imaginable; it’s about having the kind of sex that’s right for you and respecting others sexual choices even when they aren’t your cup of tea.