The concept of being an attractive girl has always been so interesting to me. I mean, it’s sort of the opposite problem that I have. You see, I’m 6 foot 3 and 260 pounds with a beard. When I walk by a stranger on the street and pay them a random compliment, it’s often received quite poorly, even if I’m genuine about it. I guess it’s just my look and stature that make me seem less approachable or personable. I can’t even sit on a bench at a playground alone without cops showing up. On the other hand, a pretty girl is constantly being showered with attention. This isn’t always a positive thing, however.
I know some girls who get hit on constantly. When I say “constantly”, I don’t mean “that’s the second time this week,” I mean “that’s the 8th time this hour!” A pretty girl is often labelled as just that: pretty and nothing else. Their likes, interests, intelligence, and personality all become secondary when they look good.
This is exactly the point that 20-year-old Felicia Czochanski tried to convey in her piece for Cosmopolitan, but it did not turn out well. The Internet took Felicia’s article as a narcissistic piece of trash and proceeded to pinpointed every single flaw of hers in order to rebut her claim that she’s pretty.
Felicia Czochanski article that made it to cosmo was one of the most narcissistic pieces of writing I have ever read.— ∀sɥlǝʎ Nᴉɔolǝ˙🌙 (@Onlyashleecee) September 9, 2015
If it makes her feel any better, Felicia Czochanski'z only about a 6— Ryan Beck (@RyanBeck14) September 13, 2015
Don’t worry, people aren’t gonna judge you on your looks anymore. Instead they’ll read your article and laugh at you.#FeliciaCzochanski— Thumb War Chronicles (@JiggleTWC) September 13, 2015
Felicia czochanski you’re as beautiful as my arse crack!!!— jason tipper (@some1stoned) September 12, 2015
Good job, everyone. I, for one, stand by Felicia when she says things like “I’m a girly girl. I’m 5-foot-5 with blonde hair, big hazel eyes, 34DDs, and toned calves…Imagine how it feels to have heads turn and all eyes on you when you are simply trying to get to where you need to be. It doesn’t make me feel beautiful or sexy. It makes me feel like there’s something wrong with me.” She continues on, explaining “Coming to terms with being perceived as "beautiful” wasn’t easy. It soon became how people knew me. People seemed to forget or simply ignore my accomplishments. They disregarded the fact that I’m an athlete, I’m intelligent, and I’m incredibly ambitious. Others did not bother to look past my appearance and actually get to know me, satisfied with the kind of person I looked like I could be.“
Here’s the thing: she’s not wrong. And even worse is the fact that we as a society put so much emphasis on being attractive when, in reality, it really isn’t that hard. It’s really not. Not to sound like a humblebrag, but I’ve gone out with some absolute smokeshows who turned out to be mean or boring or rude or a combo of all three and I never wanted to see again. Being attractive will pique my interest, but it certainly isn’t what’s going to keep it. Being intelligent, being funny, being creative and/or having a good personality will get you so much further in life than being pretty, yet the looks are the first, and often only, thing that people see. Rather than attack a girl for feeling this way, maybe we should reconsider the way we judge people.
Sorry I got serious for a minute there.
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