Though pornography has long been produced mainly with men in mind, women are also significant consumers of the genre. Everybody has sexual urges and these urges don’t discriminate. A recent survey of over 24,000 women from porn-streaming site YouPorn confirms that we have a lot to learn about how women watch pornography.

For starters, one in four YouPorn visitors are female, which means 5 million of the site’s 20 million daily visitors. Of these women, 18 percent say they watch porn every day and 63 percent will watch it on a weekly basis or a few times a month. What’s more, one in ten women will even watch porn multiple times a day.

We always applaud people becoming more comfortable with their sexual side but the survey did find that there is still a sense of shame associated with the smutty material. More than half of women admit they won’t talk to friends about their porn-viewing habits and 51 percent would be embarrassed if their friends knew they watched porn.

Here are some other interesting insights gleaned from YouPorn’s research into women’s relationship with porn.

Women are more sexually expressive after watching porn: The idea that porn replaces intimacy between two (or more) people is a misguided one. While YouPorn’s research found that 37 percent of women feel sexually satisfied after watching porn, the remainder of women view pornography as a sexual primer of sorts, with 20 percent citing they’re “still horny” after viewing and 17 percent report feeling “naughty.“

Women watch porn for the same reasons men do: Why do women watch porn? Because porn’s awesome and doesn’t discriminate, that’s why. When pressed by YouPorn, a third of women said they watch porn because they enjoy it. Second, 16 percent see porn as a way to “satisfy fantasies without acting on them” and 14 percent tune in because they feel “excited” at that moment. However, while porn may get the juices flowing, she doesn’t want you to share the experience. Nine in ten women prefer to watch porn alone.

Women want porn they can relate to: YouPorn’s research found that, when women first arrive on the porn site, 34 percent tend to select videos of women of a similar age, weight and ethnicity. That’s because 56 percent of women have imagined themselves in a porn of their very own. The second most popular factor that women consider when selecting a video is that the clip features “a female lead or dominant character.” As men tend to do, women generally select videos from a category she’s already familiar with (“Lesbian” being the most popular category) while 23 percent like to explore options across all categories.

So what to make of these results? The most obvious conclusion is that your girlfriend or wife may be watching the same videos you are. The second-most obvious is that it might be time to have a conversation about desire, what stokes it and what those desires truly are. Try to talk to her, what you find might surprise you.