Natalie B. Chad Riley.

Natalie B. Chad Riley.

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A Day At the Beach With Natalie B

Natalie B. Chad Riley.

Natalie B. Chad Riley.

Autumn draws near, but have no fear, Natalie B is here to give you one last hit of summertime sexiness. She popped out to where it’s warm, wet and sandy, to pose for photographer Chad Riley. And what else is there to say but…dayuuuum.

Natalie B. Chad Riley.

Natalie B. Chad Riley.

In this super sexy photoshoot, Natalie B goes surfing, kicks it on the shoreline, and just generally makes being sexy look like the easiest thing in the world. If you could use some nice-and-easy sexiness to help you slip away from the stress of this week…enjoy!

Natalie B. Chad Riley.

Natalie B. Chad Riley.

Sexual Etiquette

How to Receive Nudes

This week, Esquire published an interesting conversation about modern masculinity; specifically what makes a man these days. They came to the same conclusion we’ve been pushing since we first started popping buttons in 1953. Times may change, but the answer doesn’t: the best a man can be is a gentleman.

One key to being a gentleman is your mastery of etiquette. That’s always changing; what was chill yesterday, ain’t so chill today. New questions arise which require new answers. An example of a new question: How does a modern gentleman respond when he receives a nude? Here’s some good advice, if you’re wondering.

For Allure, writer Alana Massey laid out the unholy commandments for receiving nudes. Two keys: be enthusiastic and quick with your response. Imagine if your 13-year-old self received the nudes. Respond as quickly and as enthusiastically as he would have, but like a gentleman. AKA don’t use the word boner.

Meanwhile, over on Twitter in the United Kingdom, they were tweeting about this news story all week: a recent poll asked Brits, Is sex with a robot cheating? What’s your call? If you get busy with a sexbot does that count, or nah? Our sex writer Bobby Box weighs in here.

Rules of Engagement

Yeah, You Should Have Sex On The First Date

While we’re talking sexual etiquette, one last piece of advice: You should def have sex on a first date. If you’re both feeling it, why not wrinkle some sheets? If you think that sounds a bit brazen, or irresponsible, here are seven reasons why you should have sex on the first date.

When Sex Goes Pop

A Few Thoughts About Taylor Swift

Taylor Swift just showed back up in the culture full-force, dropping her dark new single “Look What You Made Me Do”. In the song, she kills off old Taylor in a voice message and calls out Kanye West and his “tilted stage,” a reference to their on-again-off-again beef. On Twitter, people have been dropping memes calling out Taylor for her seeming appropriation of Beyoncé’s visuals from Lemonade in her yet-to-be-released music video.

This week, Playboy writer Isabelle Kohn looked past the tabloid beefs and easy memes to tease out answers to a deeper question about Taylor Swift and how she’s reimagining a female pop star’s use of her sexuality and sex appeal. Kohn’s article offers an insightful read about Taylor, sexiness and our culture:

Thus, Swift is signaling the start of a unique, wholly endearing new brand of sex appeal. She is not sexy as we have historically understood sexiness—and yes, that includes how Playboy has defined sexy in the past. Her sexiness is clumsiness, self-awareness, confidence, honesty and foresight.

And if you’re someone who’s ever, um, dreamed about Taylor, well, we’ve got something for you, too. Here’s an article that analyzes our weirdest sex dreams mean. Don’t worry, it’s super common to have weird fantasies. Even if it’s Taylor Swift pouring mayo all over your naked body. Whatever.

Kinky is as kinky does.

Hard Science

What to Do When You Want More—or Less—Sex Than Your Partner

Unless you’re doing it wrong, sex is something that requires two or more people. If you’re doing it by yourself, or you’re doing something without a heartbeat, that’s onanism. That doesn’t count. That’s practice. When it comes to the real thing, because sex requires two people, frustration often arises when one partner wants sex more than the other desires it. So, what do you do?

Well, there are medical conditions which can prevent sex. Like, there are extreme examples such as this woman who’s raising money so she can have surgery because she was born without a vagina and she’d like to have sex with her boyfriend. Obviously, cases like hers are rare.

But, even when both partners are fully physically capable, most couples experience discrepancies in their arousal. This week, for Hard Science, one of our resident sexologists, Justin Lehmiller examines how to bridge the divides of sexual discrepancies. According to Lehmiller, there’s one super-easy and effective place to start:

Touch isn’t just a valuable teaching technique but also a great lead-in to sex. For example, giving each other massages can help with relaxation and stress relief—and, in the process, it just might put both of you in the mood. This is probably why research has found that couples who give each other mini-massages and backrubs are more sexually satisfied than those who don’t.

Here’s a related article about the intimate power of touch and female sexuality. It examines why all women are the same sexually when it comes to touch in that they’re all different sexually. It’s a fun paradox. The best advice: explore the continent of a woman’s sexuality. Let curiosity be your guide and pleasure be your reward. Both her pleasure and yours.

Fantasy Sex

Winter is Cumming

On Sunday, HBO airs the season finale for Game of Thrones and to mark this special occasion and get you in the mood at the same time, here are a pair of stories about brands who may have misheard the expression “winter is coming.”

Like, um, what’s up with this Game of Thrones dildo? Guess that’s one way to make sure winter keeps cumming.

Before winter, comes autumn, and with autumn comes Halloween. It may be a bit early to pick your costume, but 2017 costumes are already flooding Amazon. So, if you know nothing about what you want to be for Halloween, maybe you should be Sexy Jon Snow. You know there’s gonna be a few Sexy Mother of Dragons out there partying. Just sayin’.

This Week In WTF?!

That Time Mike Pence Fired Men For Using Their Penises

Each week, we take a digital trek around this watery globe we call home and check-in with all the weird and possibly illegal ways people are getting kinky. We all know people like to get freaky. Yet, somehow, each week, people never fail to surprise us. And they sure do make fun headlines.

Mike Pence Gets Mad At Members Of His Security Detail For Inappropriate Use of Their Penises

Apparently, the Secret Service just can’t keep it in their pants. There have been numerous news stories over the years of Secret Service agents getting fired or censured for hiring sex workers in foreign countries. In 2012, nine Secret Service agents were fired for hiring pros in Colombia. Here’s a whole timeline of Secret Service scandals. Continuing this tradition of executive security secretly hiring the services of sex workers, this week, VP Mike Pence got pissed at members of his security detail. Although these were Army soldiers, not Secret Service. But still, what would Mother say?

Sex Fest In English Countryside Didn’t Have Parking Problems, But Did Leave One Dead

Last week, we told you about the FlameFest going down in the sleepy town of Kent, located in the southeastern corner of England. In a very English way, the locals weren’t terribly concerned about the kink festival and public sex event, they were mostly concerned with having adequate parking. Welp, turns out, one person never made it home. A man in his fifties died at the public sex party. Not to minimize a human life, but that’s a pretty epic way to go out.

Adult Store Bandit Makes Getaway In Family Minivan

It’s a Sunday afternoon in Indiana, and you’re thinking to yourself, “Man, I could really go for some sex.” So what do you do? If you’re this unidentified adult store bandit, you pop down to your local sex shop and locate a Bangin’ Betty masturbator. If you’re unfamiliar with the Bangin’ Betty, it’s a sexual aid shaped like a woman’s ass and genitalia.

Apparently, it offers “nubs and ribs for ultimate pleasure” and a sexy “dual entry design.” Trouble was the adult store bandit didn’t have the $50 to buy ol’ Bangin’ Betty so instead, he just walked out with her (it?), whatever, he bounced with his Bangin’ Betty. A store employee chased him into the parking lot, but the man made it to his red Dodge minivan. Like a thief in the night, he made his escape. Guess there’s no stoppin’ a man who’s got some bangin’ to do.

Jesus Sex Scene Lands Preacher in Hot Water

Scorsese famously got into trouble with his film The Last Temptation of Christ for showing the sensual and sexual side of Mary Magdalene’s relationship with Jesus. Apparently, this week, the Seth Rogen-produced show Preacher was like, “Hey Scorsese, hold my beer.” The TV show, based on the graphic novel of the same name, decided to wade deeper into controversy with a sex scene that showed Jesus getting busy with a last taste of Mary on the night of the Last Supper. Naturally, Catholics and other Christian organizations were pissed. We’re no religious scholars, but maybe, um, they should forgive ‘em.


We came in with the beach, and we’re going out with the beach. Here to inspire you to take one last summer run out to the shore, it’s time to get wet and sandy with Ashleigh Rae-Goins. If you don’t live close enough to the water, you can imagine yourself there…with her. Enjoy!

Also, to all those of you who are down in Texas bracing for Hurricane Harvey, stay safe, y’all.