Five Things More Important than Penis Size

By Olive Day

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There are two things I’m sick of. One is the penis size debate and the other is the men who have big cocks who think that because they pack a nine-incher, all they have to do to please me is to bang me like a jackhammer. Both of these things bore me. With yet another study coming out on how penis size matters—in this case, athletes in the locker room who are inclined to sneak a peek at one another’s junk tend to idolize their better-endowed teammates—I thought it would be the perfect time to open up the floodgates and unleash some seemingly worldly wisdom to those whose dicks could not be described with the words “gargantuan,” “gigantic” or “ginormous.”

Show Enthusiasm

Congratulations, you’re about to score, and you know what? No girl is going to peace out of this situation once you take your pants off. She’s horny too, and the odds are highly in your favor that she isn’t doing this as a courtesy. If you don’t let it bother you, it probably isn’t going to bother her either, as long as you are willing to bring your A game to the sheets. Besides, sex is supposed to be fun! Enthusiastic sex partners are going to have a better time exploring each other’s kinks and pleasures. Show your excitement and be confident in the moves that you know will blow both of your minds. Positions like modified missionary, reverse cowgirl and modified doggie style are all great. AskMen collaborated with Marni the Wing Girl to lay it all out for you in a great video that walks you through three of the best moves to please both your partner and yourself.

Communicate

Would you be okay if she wanted to use a vibrator during foreplay? Would she be okay if you tied her wrists to the bedpost? Neither of these fun things is going to happen if you’re not up for communicating with your partner. Being open to sexual possibilities that fit into your boundaries (or even exploring new territories) is something that everyone should be doing. Be creative with your cock! There will be things that you’ll be able to do that men with larger members wouldn’t be able to pull off. Anal sex, for example: a nonthreatening penis is kind of the best tool ever for women who are inexperienced but interested in exploring this kind of stimulation. So you’ve got that going for you. If you feel like your sex life is fizzling solely due to your size, there are so many things that you could be doing to please your partner and you’re never going to find out if you don’t talk about it. Seduction always starts with conversation. Tell her what you’ve been fantasizing about and ask her to share what she wants too. Even if it comes down to modifying fantasies to suit your size, it’s okay!

Be Generous

Communication goes hand in hand with generosity. Do yourself a favor and educate yourself on her anatomy. Women are actually able to have three different kinds of orgasms—clitoral, G-spot and vaginal—which are all stimulated in various ways. Word to the wise: find out where her G-spot is and master it. Many women love being pleasured in this way and for some, it’s the only way to have an orgasm. The G-spot produces a very deep and powerful climax that can give women multiple orgasms with repetitive stimulation and can even make some women squirt. To take the guesswork out of finding just the right spot, high-end vibrator brand Lelo has three great vibrators they suggest for stimulating the G-spot you can find here, and if you can’t afford one, use one of her dildos or vibrators that is hard and curved.

Slow Down

Okay, I get it. Confidence doesn’t build overnight and if you really have a hard time coming to terms with your size, a lot of these things are going to be pretty difficult. In this case, all you can do is slow down, both figuratively and literally. When it comes to sex, slowly enter her in a teasing manner to build anticipation. Don’t have at it all at once; building up to entering her completely will make it feel much better for both you and your partner. If you’re really not ready to introduce your little secret, just take it slow with foreplay and show her how much of a generous lover you can be.

Fuck Like You’ve Got a Big Dick

At the end of the day, you have two options: you can either spend your days wishing for a bigger cock or fuck with the one you’ve got. If you're both communicating and letting each other know how things are feeling, it all comes down to what buttons are being pushed and what those buttons are in the first place. As long as you’re doing those things, it really doesn’t matter what size you are, now does it?


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