Matthew Hussey is an international dating expert, a profession that will never cease to fascinate me. In his most recent video (above), while speaking at a seminar, Hussey gets into one of civilized society’s oldest issues—who should pay on dates? In his opinion, the answer is simple: Both parties.

HUSSEY: “You can moan at it all you want, but the moment you say to a guy, ‘You have to pay for my time,’ you’re saying this relationship isn’t equal.”

Hussey argues that if you think a partnership is one-sided, you weren’t raised right, regardless of your gender. However, the man paying is ingrained into the Western world’s dating process, so you can see why the internet’s all abuzz with debate here.