Karrine “Superhead” Steffans, who in 2005 went from hip-hop groupie/dancer to successful best-seller with Confessions of a Video Vixen, has written a sequel tell-all, The Vixen Diaries, which is currently at #16 on the New York Times bestseller list. Now the 28 year-old single mom is working on bringing her no-holds barred bravura to the advice genre. Her third book, The Vixen Manual, which will be published in 2008, offers advice on sex, relationships, dating, and sex, sex, sex. Freelance writer Ashley Collie caught up with her for a taste of Vixen wisdom:

Tell us about your nickname, “Superhead.”

Girls ask, “What is this thing with the blowjob?” My question is, “Do you love it?” If not, then don’t even try it because there’s nothing worse than getting a blowjob from a girl that hates it. Well, I tell them, “I love it, I love it, and I love it.” And that’s what makes my guys love it. My “trick” is a technique that involves my tongue and it always changes a little because every guy’s body is different. But I got to get it back in return. If you’re not going down, then forget it. Yeah, you’re going to be there for-e-ver! That way I know you’re worthy of it.

What’s the plan with The Vixen Manual?

The Vixen Manual is very Sex in the City but young, not for 45 year-old women -- it’s very sex and relationship-oriented, very empowering for women and men alike, to help them mesh better together. It’s a new way of thinking, a new women’s movement. I have a different take on relationships being an alpha male in a woman’s body. I run my life professionally and personally like a man does. I don’t have any girlfriends. Everything I’ve learned, I’ve learned from a man which is why I get what I want, I fuck who I want, I can dump them shortly after and I keep on moving. I want women to really get their acts together for real. It’s going to be a great book and column. I’m done writing things about myself. Although I’m using my experience to give advice and help other people free themselves. People need to have these conversations, especially women, to be more free.

Tell us about your own “five.”

My dating blueprint initially always has five people in it. I date five men at the same time and let them all know who the next people are and what the other people are doing for me in order to earn my affection. And may the best man win because #1 in my Top-Five gets everything, the super blowjobs, the pole dances, anal, breakfast in bed, my special trick, the whole shit.

How do you want women to change?

When it comes to dating, men usually have more than one. Yet they want each girl to have just him because men’s egos usually can’t handle a woman having more than one man. I get that but the fact of the matter is that times are fucking changing. And I want women to be a little more masculine, to stop thinking that men have it wrong. Men have it quite right. It’s A-B-C and it’s done. A man will say, “I’m not happy, so I’m leaving you, and goodbye. A-B-C. I’m outta here!” Women are not as different as we’ve been socialized to believe. What I need women to do is to acknowledge that we’re not as different. And we don’t have to be ashamed or feel we’re going to be called whore or slut if we date or sleep with more than one person, and juggle our men the way that men juggle their women. Is there a double standard? Absolutely. But who gives a shit? A woman should be allowed to do what she wants -- just deal with it.

What do men not know about women?

I don’t think men realize that women think they’re stupid. Women regularly underestimate the intelligence of men. Women talk about guys like you’re dumb. And you’re not, you got it right, we’re the idiots. We talk about you guys, “He doesn’t know what he wants. He said this but what the fuck is that, what is he talking about? He’s such an idiot!” When any girlfriends do that to me, I’m the one who says, “Actually, he’s right. You’re the idiot for calling him twenty times asking him the same fucking question, when he told you two days ago he’s over you.”

What else have you learned?

Women are like airports and men are the planes. I’m a hub and no matter where you go round the freakin’ world, you have to come back here. You have to re-fuel, unload, pick up, whatever the fuck, and fly out again if you will but you gotta come back. I never knew a man who never came back. This is how the world works, so when they go away you have to learn that despite what they might do, they’ll come back.

So, “Dr. Karrine,” should a woman give it up on the first date?

Women who say they don’t do it on the first date are full of shit. They’ve just never met the man with that kind of je-ne-sais-quoi swagger they’re looking for. If he’s got it, fuck his brains out on the first date. But don’t give it all. Don’t give him the blowjob. Don’t give him your anal. Whatever your trick, that one thing that you do that is really special, don’t do that right away. Don’t pull out the sexy lingerie or do the pole dance. But if you feel something for him, make him want you.

What turns you on?

To me, a dick is a dick is a dick. It’s very true. Just physical sex by itself doesn’t turn me on. I can have a guy and everything he does I have an orgasm. But I can have one from not being touched. That’s how I know for me it’s more emotional and mental than only physical. I can orgasm in my own head and be soaking wet and no one has touched me, just by looking at someone. I am turned on by power, by success, by what we call swagger. It’s a thing that a man has. Guys like George Clooney, Brad Pitt, when they walk through a room, you think that’s the guy I want to fuck. Before you know his name, what he does, there’s an air about him, he exudes this confidence, strength and success.

Monogamy?

It’s not an awful thing but you got to search the gamut. Who says we have to stick with monogamy? That’s put on us by society. Only about 30% of our population is making marriage work. So why are you running into a burning building? Why are you running into this thing that isn’t working? Women tend to bet on something the minute they see it. “That’s the one, I’m going to dump everything and be with him. He’s going to be my husband from the moment I see him.” Really? Did you know you’d be divorced three years later? We romanticize everything and there’s no need to.

Tell us some tales from the book tour.

I was prepared for Bill O’Reilly to be a complete dick. Being an alpha male in a beautiful woman’s body, I can handle that shit. I was ready for him to go at me and so I looked through the sexual harassment lawsuit against him. I went through his TMZ files. I was prepared. You’re a pervert and you’re going to talk to me about what? You’re harassing people and putting your dick on people’s forehead at work and you want me to do what? Be ashamed of myself? So whatever little things O’Reilly might have pulled, I easily smacked them down. He was kind of a dog and you got to choke on his chain a bit and he’ll stay under control. But what Tyra said off-camera to me, that was really disgusting -- but people in glass houses … you know what I mean. Donnie Deutsch was a dick, too.

For more of Karrine’s thoughts on sex, read her Dirty Dozen interview.