The November issue contains a letter from C.S. of Hollywood, Florida, who boasts that his “long and fruitful years of cockmanship” have taught him that women want intercourse to be “harder, faster and deeper, just like in porn.” That didn’t sit well with a number of readers.
"Sometimes male assumptions make me laugh,” writes S.M. of Cleveland. “Porn is to sex like action movies to war: They both overdramatize the exciting parts that appeal mostly to men. Soft and shallow is wonderful. It tenses the body up and puts a girl right in the moment. She may not ask for it because she won't see it as a turn-on for her partner. As for oral sex, which C.S. claimed women want to be ‘loud, sloppy and wet,’ men are pretty straightforward. They like a lot of easy staples, so even without flourishes they can be quite satisfied. Women are a little complicated. Variety, intuitiveness and a gentle tongue are par for the course for most. The vulva isn't a blackboard, it's a canvas. Finally, my favorite, penetration for the heterosexual man, which C.S. dismisses as ‘just wrong.’ Men often have fantasies about anal sex. Women have them, too. I was thrilled when my latest man wanted to try anal play. I knew he was very straight from the start, so it was an unexpected treat getting asked to show him what life is like on the receiving end.”
B.C. of Sandyville, West Virginia, weighs in with this: “Obviously C.S. has never tried slow and shallow, which is much more likely to stimulate a woman’s G spot.”
D.M. of Boise concludes with this note of caution: “I may not be a ‘cocksman’ as C.S. so eloquently put it but I am a 40-year-old man who frequents the bed of several younger women, ranging from 22 to 30 years old, not because I'm a Brad Pitt look alike but because their husbands or boyfriends think like C.S. does. Porn is great as fantasy but there's a reason most of the female orgasms you see are fake. Some women may like it rough once in a while but C.S., you keep pounding and acting like going down on her is all-you-can-eat buffet, and she's going to go numb. If you don’t savor what you're doing and let her savor it, as well, you may come home and find me in your bed with her.”
"Given his claim that the women in his life have all wanted loud, sloppy and wet sex, I can only assume this guy is also one of those animals who almost sucks a woman's face off with a wide-mouth kiss,” says S.E. of Ramstein, Germany. “Certainly, as the climaxing approaches, we might enjoy a bit of the thrusting action, but please. This guy also doesn't seem to be aware of his own penis. The head is the most sensitive area of a man's entire body. Slow, shallow thrusting can do so much more for a man's experience. The vagina doesn’t have nerve endings deep inside. All a woman feels after so much penetration is the pressure, not sensation. Men need to make love to the clit.”
Finally we hear from D.L. in Colorado Springs, who writes, “C.S. has no idea what a real woman wants. After reading about the Rule of Nines in the Advisor my husband tried it on me. It was phenomenal! Porn's are created out of male fantasy's (nothing wrong with that), but don't think for one minute that is what a woman really wants. As for tracing the alphabet with your tongue on a woman’s clit, my husband and I have a fantastic and creative sex life, but when he used that suggestion I reached new levels of ecstasy! Thank you for yet another wonderful idea.” We aim to please.
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In the information age, why are there still guys like C.S.?
"I'm one up on the cocksman, I came this morning in the shower..."
-Super Cherry from Russ Meyer's SuperVixens
http://myspacetv.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=vids.individual&videoid=6806631
"The vagina doesn’t have nerve endings deep inside. All a woman feels after so much penetration is the pressure, not sensation. Men need to make love to the clit.”
Did a man write this because it's completely false!
I guess I'm just a really lucky freak of nature.