How to manage a menage? Maybe we should write a best-seller called "The One Minute Menager." If the letters we receive from readers and surveys such as one done by the Kinsey Institute at the University of Indiana are any indication, there's a lot of curiosity among couples about threesomes. But among married couples, the Kinsey scientists found that less than three percent admitted having tried a threesome, and the vast majority said they had done it only once. That's because there is a potential downside to threesomes: Occasionally the couples that walks in isn't the couple that walks out. Sometimes affairs develop on the side, or one or both partners become jealous. The best way to plan for a threesome is to sit down with your partner (and the third party involved, if that can be arranged) and discuss each of your expectations. What happens after the threesome is over? You may decide that a threesome works best as a fantasy.

Most of the triangles we've heard about involve two women who are already friends or acquaintances with whom the topic comes up during conversation. Some couples broach the topic with a friend or acquaintance by talking generally about sexual fantasies, and seeing how the person reacts to the topic of group sex. You could also join the swinger's scene, where threesomes are old hat. To learn more, visit the Lifestyles Organization.