With the right preparation and care, anal sex can provide immense pleasure. If it hurts, you're doing it wrong. We asked Tristan Taormino, author of The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women, for her thoughts and were taken by her enthusiasm. "Anal sex is the greatest thing going," she says. "It does not have to hurt even a little bit. Start with your pinkie and a lot of lube.

Then work up slowly. Try a finger, then two, then a slim butt plug. This doesn't have to happen in one night. Many women love anal sex and seek it out because it gives them incredible sensations and orgasms. When a woman is penetrated anally, the urethral sponge on the front wall of her vagina is stimulated -- that's the place known as the G spot.

There are tons of nerve endings in the anus as well. Anal sex can also build intimacy. The woman might find herself thinking, We worked up to this and I trust this guy. As for men, it's in their best interest to make sure their lovers experience only pleasure during anal sex." Anal play isn't just for women. Couples also many enjoy the instructional video, "Bend Over Boyfriend," available by phoning 800-289-8423.