According to one study, five places to meet the "right woman" are: a friend's home, evening class, work, a religious gathering and, lastly, a night spot. We feel the best way to meet women in bars is to go with a male friend; the companionship bolsters your confidence and you're more likely to meet women who go out in pairs. For years, we've also suggested readers pursue activities to increase their chances of meeting women with whom they'll have something in common. Athletic? Go to a gym, or enter a marathon. Literate? Go to a bookstore. Musical? Browse at the local CD emporium. Remember, there are plenty of women out there. You must believe you have something of value to offer the opposite sex. How you relate to your female friends is important; sometimes, friendship grows into something exciting.

However, if shyness is a problem for you, there are self-help books and videos that can help. Counseling is also an option. You need to appear confident, act assertive and display a sense of humor. When you feel ready to take on a relationship, make changes in your life. Some possibilities: Take up an activity you've long wanted to pursue, buy a pet (walking dogs is a traditional way to meet women), be alert to opportunities in ordinary places (such as laundromats and supermarkets), join a group with interests similar to yours, get involved with volunteer work, spruce up your appearance (new hairstyle, new clothes or trips to the gym can make anyone feel better about himself), smile and compliment others. Be comfortable talking about yourself and your interests, but don't forget to listen as well. It's as much about meeting new people (some of whom happen to be women) as anything else.