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#AskPlayboy: Jenny Mollen On Watching Porn With Your Girlfriend
  • November 26, 2012 : 08:11
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I really don’t understand why people are always so surprised that people watch porn. I love my girlfriend, but the reaction she gave me when she found my stash was like she had just discovered Romney’s binders of women, which sucks because I’ve recently been toying with the idea of watching porn with her. What is the etiquette on something like this? Do I seductively bring my laptop into the bedroom and turn on wherever I left off on Big Girls Don’t Cry? Basically what I want to know is how to introduce the idea of watching porn with my girlfriend without looking like an idiot.

Your woman’s reaction has less to do with the porn and more to do with the fact that you have a hidden stash of anything! The minute my husband hides something from me, I assume he’s doing it because he either A) is having an affair or B) is plotting to kill me. It’s just shady to keep anything under wraps from your partner. It suggests that you’re somehow embarrassed or ashamed of it.

SO STOP HIDING SHIT!

If you’re open and unapologetic about appreciating porn, your girl might be too. If you are weird and secretive, she is of course going to feel threatened. Asking her to watch with you is a great way to destigmatize the subject. And when you are watching, remember that you have company. It wouldn’t hurt to mention that you are more turned on by the actions on screen than the actual people themselves. Otherwise, a pricey boob job might be going on your credit card.

Jenny Mollen is a writer, actress and all-around gorgeous sassy badass who lives in L.A. with her dog Teets and husband Jason Biggs. She writes about her life on TheSmokingJacket.com in her highly popular column What She Said. Follow her on Twitter at @JennyAndTeets and on Instagram at JennyAndTeets2.

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8 comments

  • porn-addicts girlfriend
    porn-addicts girlfriend
    well on the one hand you tell them to be honest, then at the end you tell them lie. The reason most girls don't like porn is because we know if he could have the girl on the screen he wouldn't come back
  • Anonymous
    Anonymous
    My husband & I have been married 27 years and we have never been shy about porno. I think it's enhanced our lives together. Lately he has been watching BDSM porno and I just can't really get into it. He has just started reading 50 Shades of Grey and he's been telling me about it. I have to admit it has sparked an interest in me. I think I'm going to read it for myself. Maybe the reason BDSM has not been interesting is that as a woman I need the back story. I mean let's face it woman often read romance novels but then get upset at their men for watching porno. I'm hoping reading the book will adjust the way I feel about BDSM.
  • Anonymous
    Anonymous
    Spot on! (says the guy who secretly watches porn but doesn't have an affair)
  • Anonymous
    Anonymous
    I love it! Fucking awesome!
  • Anonymous
    Anonymous
    My boyfriend used to watch porn behind my back and i was upset at first but after a while i realized i liked it too and it is natural to have a healthy sexual appetite. so we watch it together now and ive become much more confident and comfortable with my sexuality since we started sharing all of our sexual fantisies with eachother ! This article is absolutly right just dont hide it and she will probably be more likly to accept it and the idea of watching it wih you !
  • Anonymous
    Anonymous
    When I was away from home for a few nights, my husband got a bit lonely. When I got home, he confessed that he tried to watch some porn, but felt guilty. I had to reassure him that I had no problem with it and recently I have introduced the idea of watching some videos together. After avoiding the question on what kind he wanted to watch, I then found out he was afraid to tell me he liked thing like lesbian pornos. He was so afraid that I would be disgusted or something. We had a lot of fun once I convinced him he could be open and unashamed about his fantasies.
  • Anonymous
    Anonymous
    i luv 2 watch it wid my girlfrnd
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