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Five Tips to Make Yourself Irresistible for Blowjobs
  • May 20, 2013 : 15:05
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I love blowjobs. I'm basically an oral advocate. No, really. I've spent the last five-plus years devoted to showing that fellatio can be gorgeous, sensual and very hot through my beautiful porn sites…As if any of you needed to be convinced! The truth is, there are many women just like me who absolutely adore giving head and many more who enjoy it greatly under the right circumstances. So what improves the odds of getting a mind-blowing blowjob? Here are a few suggestions.


A simple tip to start: if it's been an especially long, active or hot day, pop into the shower for a quick refresher before the blowjob to make sure that you smell and taste your best! This is also the perfect excuse to get your partner in there with you. What's sexier than soaping up each other's bodies as foreplay? Some people like a little more of the natural essence, so you may find that your partner isn't bothered or even likes a little…manly musk, but this is the type of thing you should wait for her to tell you. It's nice to groom, too. I'm not saying you need to be waxed down like a Ken doll, but consider a little trim if you're more hirsute so nothing is going to tickle any noses or floss any teeth. And while you don't need to stock up on anything lacy (unless that's your thing), you can't go wrong with some classic, well-fitting underwear free of holes, stains—ew—and the dreaded loose waistband syndrome. Ladies appreciate sexy underpinnings, too; it's nice to unwrap a pretty package.


This is directly from feedback I've received over the years: a lot of women assume that blowjobs can't be what they want them to be because they haven't had the best experiences and have only seen the way some mainstream porn interprets it: lots of gagging, hair pulling and choking. To get into the mood and to show that there are a whole variety of ways to enjoy oral sex, do a little homework and find some sensual, respectful and beautiful blowjob porn to share. It's amazing what it'll do to ease you both into the idea of enjoying blowjobs on a whole new level. Maybe she can even practice along with the video…Just be sure to keep your eyes on her and not too much on the screen.


It's really hard to get what you want if you don't ask. If a particular type of stimulation feels amazing, say so. Likewise, if something does nothing for you or actually makes you uncomfortable, speak up! Without getting too bossy, voice your desires and get what you want out of the blowjob. That said, while there's nothing necessarily wrong with liking it rough if that's your thing, most people don't go into giving a blowjob expecting to end up with whiplash. Maybe your partner will be totally into it, but you need to talk about it before you try anything. Compromise, start slow and amp up gradually, and be sure to leave room for styles your partner wants to try as well. The same thing goes for target practice. It's not bad to want to come in her mouth, on her face, on her breasts and so forth, but give a heads-up (ha!) before you do so, and leave it open for her to suggest an alternative if she wants. You can always plead your case later.


This should go without saying, but not a ton of people give blowjobs exclusively for their own amusement. If you're enjoying the blowjob, let it show! Make a little noise (not fake over-the-top porn moans, but don't stifle yourself either) and you'll most likely turn your partner on, leading to more enthusiasm. Plus, it's a great nonverbal cue that she's on the right track. Encouraging words can be wonderful, especially when you're getting close to orgasm. Letting your partner know how good you feel and how great she is at pleasing you is a way to make blowjobs an erotic experience for both of you. And, though you won't find this in Emily Post, it's nice to thank someone after a blowjob. You don't need to get out your calligraphy pens to send a card in the mail, but a kiss and a breathless "Wow. Thanks! You're amazing!" can make all the jaw tension seem more than worth it.


Not everything needs to be exactly even, but if you're receiving pleasure, it's nice to give some too. This can take on many forms. Maybe you can find a way to use your hands or a toy to stimulate while you're being sucked. Maybe she can play with herself. Maybe you can even try a little 69. Some people like to just concentrate on one thing at a time, but make sure to find a way to return the favor in some way after. It doesn't need to be oral sex, since not everyone wants the same thing, but find a way to get enthusiastic about your partner's pleasure as well as your own to make sure that everyone is having a good time.

None of this is rocket science. It all boils down to this: if you show that you can be an enthusiastic, respectful and unselfish lover, you will position yourself as exactly the kind of guy who deserves many a blowjob. Isn't that what we all want?


Camille Crimson is the model and webmaster of The Art of Blowjob and Slow Motion Blowjob. She's an avid motorcyclist, a consummate musician, a lover of cooking and a good Scotch and a sci-fi/zombie/gaming geek. You can find her on  Twitter as @CamilleCrimson and on Facebook at Official Camille Crimson.

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