“When men of the same age, disposition and talents, fond of the same diversions and with the same degree of education, sit together in company with public women,or in an assembly of citizens, or at the abode of one among themselves, and engage in agreeable discourse with each other, such is called a Sitting in company or a social gathering. The subjects of discourse are to be the completion of verses half composed by others, and the testing the knowledge of one another in the various arts. The women who may be the most beautiful, who may like the same things that the men like, and who may have power to attract the minds of others, are here done homage to.” – Kama Sutra, Part I, Chapter IV, “On Arrangements of a House, and Household Furniture; and About Daily Life of a Citizen, His Companions and Amusements, Etc.”
Aside from being one of the most absurdly named chapters in a book chock-full of absurdly named chapters, the Kama Sutra again strikes gold with this excerpt, albeit in a roundabout, wordy way.
Dating or meeting strange, attractive women in a group setting can be tricky, a tightrope act; just the right amount of attention must be given. Too much becomes overbearing, desperate; you’ll stand out against your much cooler friends as a needy, paranoid, over-emotional basket case. But too little, too much of the strong, silent type act could invite comparisons to a wallflower.
The best-case scenario is to be engaging with the group, with your friends. Show that you are an alpha dog within the pack, and when the moment arises be sure to include, compliment or playfully poke fun at the strange attractive girl in question and then as the night draws to a close, start focusing your attention more toward her.