Lesbian Sex Tips for Men: Anal for Her

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<p>Jincey Lumpkin is a sex expert and lesbian porn producer and she's here to reveal tips for anal sex to use with your lady. </p>


There’s a lot a straight man can learn about pleasing a woman from how lesbians get it on. And sex advice columnist, former lawyer, breast lover and lesbian pornographer Jincey Lumpkin, Esq. is here to share the sensual secrets you need to know to get a lady off. Lumpkin believes that anal sex is under-explored as a source of intense female pleasure and orgasm, so in this installment we’re presenting her backdoor tips.

Playboy.com: Isn’t anal sex just something women do to make their boyfriends happy? Is it actually pleasurable for women?

Lumpkin: Sadly, this seems to be the case for many women. And they are missing out BIG TIME! I had a friend who recently said that her mom told her, “Anal sex is for your dad’s birthday only.” I thought that was hilarious.

I absolutely love anal sex, and it’s probably the only thing I really miss about having sex with men. Lately, though, I have been having a lot of anal sex with my lady, and I am loving it. I can actually speak to anal sex both from the lesbian and straight perspective, since I really did like anal with men. However, I am still a lesbian, so don’t get it twisted!

My straight experience with anal went something like this: I had a boyfriend in college, and I REALLY wanted to try anal sex. He said, “Gross, Jincey. Don’t you think some things should be reserved for marriage?” OMG, how boring. Nonetheless, I talked him into it and he stuck his dick halfway in and then said, “I can’t do this,” and pulled out.

After I broke up with him, I had another boyfriend who loved anal sex. We actually had anal on our first date. We had already had sex once that night, and then he said to me, “Hey, do you want to have anal?” I said, “Don’t you think that’s a bit too intimate for a first date?” He laughed and said, “And what, the rest of the sex hasn’t been intimate??” He stumped me on that, so I felt comfortable enough to try.

He had had a lot of anal, so he knew some good tricks:

  1. IT DOESN’T HAVE TO BE DOGGY-STYLE

He taught me that the easiest way to do it at first is via missionary position. The cock slides in much more easily.

  1. THE PENIS MUST BE LUBRICATED

Unlike a vagina, your butthole is not self-lubricating. I personally hate lube, so I always asked him to spit. I found that worked for me. I’ve also used olive oil, butter and almond oil as lubricant, depending on what I have handy. Keep in mind that if you are having safer sex with a condom, you need to use a condom-safe lube.

  1. MOVE AS SLOWLY AS POSSIBLE

I found that his dick really hurt me while going in, but once it was, say, a third of the way inside, the rest was golden.

  1. THRUST SLOWLY

Unless she asks for it, this is not a “fuck the shit out of her” opportunity. Despite what you see in porn, in the case of anal sex for regular folks, tender is better.

  1. PAY ATTENTION TO HER CLIT

Ask her to touch herself or use a vibrator. You could also rub her clit while you penetrate her. It feels really good, and she actually might come like this. The sensation of being full is very satisfying.

  1. IF SHE ASKS YOU TO STOP, STOP IMMEDIATELY

Then pull out even more slowly than you went in. Anal sex can go from feeling amazing to hurting badly in about a split second.

  1. THE POO SITUATION

When you pull out, you may see a little bit of poo on your dick. That’s normal. Don’t freak out about it. Make sure that you wash off your penis before you penetrate her pussy again. Don’t ever go straight from ass to vag. This can cause a very serious infection in her hoo-ha.

Jincey Lumpkin, Esq. is the “Chief Sexy Officer” of Juicy Pink Box. She’s a former lawyer, a diva and a lover of breasts. She pens sex columns in both The Huffington Post and Curve Magazine. Known as “Lesbian Hugh Hefner,” Lumpkin is widely recognized as an expert in women’s sexuality, having lectured at TEDx and Harvard University. Out Magazine named her “one of the most influential gay people in the world.” Follow her on Twitter @JuicyJincey.


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