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Lesbian Sex Tips for Him: Squirting, Boundary-Checking
  • June 16, 2014 : 07:06
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Sex advice columnist, producer of lesbian porn, writer and former lawyer Jincey Lumpkin, Esq. has lived a dozen lives already and she has lots of lessons from her many experiences to share with us. As a woman crazy about women, her insights into ladies’ sex lives are exactly what men need to hear and she’s here with lesbian sex tips for straight dudes.

Playboy.com: Since you’ve slept with both men and women, do you think there are inherent differences in the way the genders approach sex?

Lumpkin: I suppose it depends on the person. When I think back about the guys that I slept with, I don't really remember a particular approach. However, what I notice about women is that they really watch and listen. There's lots of eye contact during sex. We read each other. Feeling your lover's wet pussy obviously aids in understanding that things are going well, but we tend to check in a lot.

"Do you like it when I choke you like this? Feels good, doesn't it? Kiss me. Harder." This kind of boundary-checking doesn't have to interrupt sex. It can be a really sexy way of talking to each other.


Playboy.com: Are there any sex tips you have to make a woman squirt?

Lumpkin: I only dated one girl who squirted, but I have shot lots of different women in porn who squirt. First of all, not every woman can squirt. I never have, and I don't think I can, but I have tried. I remember how surprised I was when the girl I was dating squirted. I was going down on her and fingering her, and all of a sudden she said, "Wait, wait!" I pulled my fingers out, and she squirted in our bed.

She was really embarrassed, but after some time, she became more comfortable. After a while, she was able to control when she could squirt. I asked her what it felt like, and she said it felt good—different from an orgasm, but a nice release.

There is not really a standard way to make a woman squirt, but stimulating the G-spot can make some women ejaculate. However, I've seen other women squirt just from oral sex, so I think it's a "get-in-there-and-try" situation.

Playboy.com: You wrote a whole column about anal sex. Is it common among lesbian couples? What can dudes learn from a lesbian approach to anal play?

Lumpkin: Yes, for sure. Sometimes we have sex with a strap-on. For myself, I'm honestly not the biggest fan of strap-on sex, because if I want penetration, I want it fucking hard. Most dildos are made of rubber or silicone, and they just don't do it for me. Also, if you put a glass dildo in a harness, it can be a bit dangerous, because you have a lot less control over the way it moves. Here's how my lady and I have anal sex without a cock involved.

1. We make out forever until we are both super drenched and horny as hell.

2. She kisses me down my body and between my legs.

3. Unlike in straight anal sex, doggy style for anal fingering is actually a really good position, because you can see the ass more clearly. Also, fingers are easy to move, so you can put more or less fingers with ease.

4. She licks around the hole while she strokes my clit. She puts the fingers from one hand into my pussy. When her fingers on the other hand and my asshole are wet enough from her saliva, she slowly slips one finger in. Honestly, most of the time I am so horny from her fingering my pussy that I don't even feel the fingers of her other hand slipping into my ass. She puts more fingers in my ass as I get more turned on.

5. She fucks me hard with her fingers in my pussy, but she keeps the fingers in my ass moving very slowly or not at all. Sometimes I'll also touch my clit. There's something about this double digital penetration that hits my G-spot and just feels so, so good. Pretty much I orgasm within minutes, and it's such a satisfying climax that I collapse.

6. Do not put the fingers from the butt-hole hand into the vag! This can cause a serious bacterial infection in the poussoir, and it is not pleasant. Such an infection can be really dangerous, actually.

Jincey Lumpkin, Esq. is the “Chief Sexy Officer” of Juicy Pink Box. She’s a former lawyer, a diva and a lover of breasts. She pens sex columns in both The Huffington Post and Curve Magazine. Known as “Lesbian Hugh Hefner,” Lumpkin is widely recognized as an expert in women’s sexuality, having lectured at TEDx and Harvard University. Out Magazine named her “one of the most influential gay people in the world.” Follow her on Twitter @JuicyJincey.

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