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Playboy Advisor:  Climaxing and 69ing
  • July 03, 2012 : 14:07
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Question: One of my favorite positions is 69. The feeling of my girl sucking my cock while grinding her pussy in my face can’t be beat. The problem is my girlfriend doesn’t like it. She says she can’t concentrate on my cock because she gets overstimulated. How can I convince her to 69? As it stands, she’ll blow me and I can go down on her but only as two independent actions.—B.B., Denver, Colorado

Answer: You have to love a woman who is worried she won’t be able to blow you properly. We can sympathize; the position can be frustrating because it’s the sexual equivalent of fading in and out of consciousness—if you pause to focus on your own pleasure, it’s easy to neglect your assignment, leaving you in a 68 (69 minus one). Why not compromise with a time limit? Five minutes seems about right. Set an egg timer if you must, and when the bell rings, she gets to choose the next position.

Question: My girlfriend has a small clit. She is aware of this and can climax only by applying a vibrator when I am inside her. When I am ready to climax I have to continue fucking her as she vibrates her clit until she comes. Sometimes I lose my erection while I’m waiting for her. Are there any products that can make her more sensitive? I am disappointed when our passionate lovemaking is interrupted by her inability to reach orgasm.—R.P., Grand Rapids, Michigan

Answer: Oh, where to begin? First, your girlfriend does not have a small clit—in fact, if you were to follow the glans (the part you can see) into her body, you’d find her erectile tissue is as long if not longer than yours. Second, we doubt she is unable to come without you when she uses a vibrator. She’s being kind. Third, it’s wonderful if you come together, but we strongly recommend a better strategy than mutually assured eruption: Make sure she always comes at least once before intercourse. If she climaxes again during penetration, great. If not, withdraw and use your fingers and tongue to get her off again, or at least kiss her and whisper compliments as she works the vibe. You don’t want her to start looking for a product that will make you more sensitive.

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2 comments

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous
    There’s not a man out there who can’t say to themselves, “Man I blew it that time,” literally. I’m a bachelor in my twenties, and I’ll admit it happens to me from time to time. Why would I take pills for something that only happens on occasion? My search narrowed me down to a topical spray called Promescent. I tried it out. Loved it, and have not turned back.
  • Anonymous
    Anonymous
    You dont need pills or spray! I solved my own problems by growing up and acting like a MAN. Get your life in order, dress well, lose weight, get your ducks in a row first and your dick will follow. The end result of getting your life in order is = confidence. I used to be a 10 minute trick until I lost 25 pounds and started dressing respectable. now I can go all night long.
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