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Playboy Advisor: Time to Man Up
  • September 07, 2012 : 15:09
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When I go out I usually get an amaretto sour or a Midori sour. My friends make fun of me for ordering “girlie drinks.” I don’t like beer, and I’ve sampled vodka, gin and whiskey and dislike them all. Is there a drink that’s not as strong as those but also not girlie?—W.B., St. Louis, Missouri

Drink what you like; your buddies will always find something to rib you about. But you should challenge your palate. There are so many great microbrews with such a variety of tastes, it’s hard to imagine you won’t find one to your liking. If a bar offers flights (samples of a handful of beers, usually from light to dark), start there. Another suggestion: a margarita in a rocks glass. Like your favorites, it’s sour but not too strong. A simple home recipe: Pour two parts 100 percent agave silver tequila, one part Cointreau and the juice of half a lime in a shaker with ice. Shake, pour over ice and garnish with a lime wheel. If it’s too strong, add a dash of water.

Which penis type do women prefer? I’m of average length and above-average girth and worry about it. I haven’t had any complaints, but what is the truth?—R.R., Bay City, Michigan

They prefer a penis attached to a guy who doesn’t worry about what type of penis they prefer. Girth is more important than length to stimulate the clitoris during intercourse, so you’re doing well in that department. But no competent lover relies on his erection alone. If she likes the entire package, she’ll like the one between your legs.

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  • Anonymous
    I Love sex, I love everything about sex... the smell, the feel, the power, emotion and the surrender. I love making love and I love to fuck and up until we got married my husband loved having sex with me. I believe we have a wonderful marriage but we have ZERO sex life. Like none at all. This has been going on for years and he swears he isn't cheating on me or that he isn't gay. He is very affectionate and is always kissing or touching me but zero sex. He has no problem getting hard... that's not the issue but its like his libido died. He doesn't masturbate and blames lack of everything on stress, his weight gain etc... We have gone to a therapist and we learned how to not fight about it anymore but we still aren't having sex. My question is what the hell is wrong and what do I do about it?? Is he having an affair? Is he (ZERO reason to believe this... just an option I throw out as a possible reason) gay? Do I disgust him and he doesn't want me anymore? Do I go out and look elsewhere for pleasure? I love him so very much and I don't want to be without him ever but I miss making love to my husband. Help me please, -Just sad