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Playboy Advisor: Lackluster Oral Sex
  • November 12, 2012 : 08:11
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My girlfriend gives from-the-side, minimal variation, little eye contact, forget the balls, dull blow jobs. I’ve told her what I like, but she makes only a passing effort to change, then says it’s too hard to do it that way. She admits she should make more of an effort but “gets bored after two minutes.” How do I get the blow jobs I deserve? If it were only a matter of instruction, I would be fine, but she needs an attitude adjustment.—D.M., Philadelphia, Pennsylvania

We can share plenty of techniques—our library is full of creative books on the subject. But even if your girlfriend developed an arsenal of mouth maneuvers, it would do little good in the long run if she has no interest in what turns you on. She is not taking advantage of what Debra Macleod in her guide Lip Service calls the most “erotically useful” part of the female body. Giving head is boring unless your partner is clearly excited about what you’re doing. Our suggestion is that you make sure your girlfriend is very aroused before she starts or becomes very aroused as she is going down on you. You could try 69, but that requires focus. Instead, use a vibrator to stimulate her. She can also apply a vibrator to you, slip on a cock ring or take a break by applying a masturbation sleeve. Once she sees oral sex as a feedback loop, you may soon discover her reading in bed.

My boyfriend of two years will not go down on me. He says he “doesn’t do that.” At first it didn’t bother me—I prefer intercourse—but now I miss it. Because I want to please him, and in desperate hope of reciprocation, I occasionally give in to anal sex, which I hate but which my boyfriend loves to give and receive. I fuck him with strap-ons, and he looks at tranny hookers and tranny porn online. Today I asked him if he would go down on a transsexual, and he said he would. Shocked, I asked if he was gay. He looked puzzled and said he wasn’t. I wanted to scream, “You won’t go down on your girlfriend, but you’d suck a dick—and you’re not gay?” Do you think he may be in denial? He’s 41 years old and has been with dozens of women but no men. What should I do?—L.C., Los Angeles, California

Maybe he’s pansexual. You offer many juicy details, but the issue here is simple: Say what you need to say (without screaming and not during sex). After you do, he owes you a better explanation than he’s offered. You don’t say why you dislike anal, but we’re guessing because it is painful. It shouldn’t be, and he should know about that as well. We don’t know anything about the rest of your relationship, but you certainly deserve a better sex life.

 

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