Playboy Advisor: What She Wants: Sex in Public and Being 'Taken'

My wife wants to have sex in a semi-public place. I’m in the Navy, and a public indecency charge could have lasting effects on my career. If I’m going to do this, I want to make sure I find a balance between risk and security. I’ve been with several women who had this fantasy. In one case, we had sex in a movie theater. What do you think the appeal is for the woman? Is it the thrill of getting caught?—M.T., Norfolk, Virginia

That’s part of it. There’s also the idea that you are so out of your mind with lust you can’t control yourself, even on the subway or in a restaurant. Or simply that strangers are watching. Or some combo. In this situation, the compromise is a one-way mirror. Hire a limo to drive you around town.

Why does pulling a woman’s hair while entering her from behind excite her? Does the same explanation apply to spanking?—J.O., Fayetteville, Arkansas

We can’t speak for women who like to have their hair firmly held during doggy style (though we’ll ask the next time we have the chance), but it likely has to do with the idea that they are being "taken." Spanking doesn’t have that dynamic; in that case, the woman has been naughty. Regardless, we fulfill all such requests without questions.