How do you get what you want from a man? If I'm not getting an orgasm and I'm not telling him what he's doing wrong or what he's doing right -- whatever the problem is -- it's half my fault. There must be at least a moment in the night where something he was doing felt so good, so I would tell him, "That feels really good." He knows to stay there and work with it. I mean, no girl is going to feel the same pleasure from a certain stroke or movement. We all have different sensation buttons. I know a lot of girls who don't have an orgasm unless a guy goes down on them. Why doesn't she show the guy what she's doing to her own body to get herself off and then he could add to it? Just by being a man, he adds to the whole experience and makes you feel good. When I'm in love and I'm having sex with the guy I love, it's making love and I'm feeling pleasure from it. If I'm not feeling pleasure, then I'm not intimate enough, and I'm not in love with him.

There are girls who say they're not aroused unless they use their vibrators. OK, then have the guy use the vibrator on you. Get off with him doing all that. Try new things. See what he can do to make you feel good and go from there. How can you not find one thing about your man that makes you get off? I don't understand. If it's a problem, you're with the wrong person -- or you're hiding something, too. There's something going on in your mind where you're not letting it all go. Go see a sex therapist. Go see a porno together. Bring pornos home. I'm not threatened at all by pornos. I think they're fun sometimes.