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We talked to 17 of the most recent Playmates and Bunnies—you know, some of the most beautiful women in the world—about being approached in real life: what works, what doesn’t, and what’s stood out. You might think women no longer want to be approached in person, but the reality is that only one Playmate surveyed said she doesn’t like being hit on in person. The vast majority like being approached. Just under half reported that it is their preferred method of meeting men, with the rest reporting that they either like it or feel neutral.

Meanwhile, 77 percent think men are less likely to approach women in person than they were in the past—with phones the primary culprit. And just under half of Playmate and Bunny respondents are getting hit on in person on a daily basis. For the rest, at least weekly.

They’re used to guys trying to shoot their shot, so it’s not weird for you to try it too. Here, three of them reveal the methods that worked.

I was in a coffee shop and a gentleman came up and said, “I saw you from across the room and I couldn’t take my eyes off of you. If you’re not involved, I would absolutely love to meet you for a drink.” He gave me his card, and I ended up taking him up on that offer. It didn’t work out romantically but we are great friends to this day.

—anonymous Playmate

There’s been a few times where I’ve been hit on in person and it’s been successful! The last time, the dude was dancing behind me at an after-party and it was really hot on the dance floor. He had a fan and used it to cool me down because he noticed I was sweating. I really appreciated the gesture so I grabbed the fan and used it on him. It was a simple but effective way of getting my attention. We later exchanged contact info.

—Cristal Torres

I was hit on successfully at a bar, surprisingly. He could tell I was overstimulated because the bar was over capacity so he made a joke of the situation. I could tell his intentions were pure and he was just trying to be nice. He waited to see if there was an opening to lead the conversation into something more flirty! That’s the best way to do it.

—Emma Furr