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Should You Buy Your Girlfriend a Vibrator for Christmas?

Should You Buy Your Girlfriend a Vibrator for Christmas?: Wavebreakmedia

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I have a confession: I have never owned a vibrator. I know, being the Playboy Advisor and not having a vibrator is like being a wizard with no wand, but I’m an endorphin junkie and I’ve always feared that if I got a dildo, I would OD on orgasms. So, the bad news is that I have no knowledge of vibrators. The good news is we’re going shopping for your girlfriend together.

001 Pleasure Chest External

If you’re shopping for your lady friend for the first time and have no idea where to begin, I highly recommend starting with a visit to an actual, physical erotic store. Yes! They still exist! I went to the West Hollywood’s Pleasure Chest, which just celebrated 45 years of being in the business of selling toys of sexual discovery and exploration. The Pleasure Chest is my go-to for all things kink; the atmosphere is classy and the staff is extremely knowledgeable (as are the staff at most adult stores). You should trust them as much as I trusted Koko, my Pleasure Chest Dildo Whisperer.

When it comes to men shopping for the women in their lives, Koko always starts with two basic questions: “How much of an investment do you want to make?” and “How does she orgasm?”

“There are many different grades of vibrators,” she says. “Is this for one night only or do you want something to last?” Makers like LELO, a Swedish company with good Swedish design and toys that purr likes kittens, market themselves as a luxury brand. Anything made of silicone and rechargeable is usually considered “luxury” and those products will always have a higher price point. If you can’t spring $200 on a vibrator you’re not sure she’ll enjoy, lower-market alternatves are available. But remember: those luxury features can make all the difference in the world.

In terms of knowing how your woman orgasms, this is important because, as Koko says, women who respond to internal stimulation have different needs than those who respond to external stimulation. If you don’t know the answer to this question because you’re in a brand new relationship, stuffing her stocking with a vibrator might not be the best idea, in which case, the answer to the headline of this column is, “NO. YOU DEFINITELY SHOULD NOT BUY HER A VIBRATOR. WHY ARE YOU EVEN READING THIS?” Stop reading this and go get her a Victoria’s Secret gift car. (You can figure out a way to causally bring up sex toys later on.)

For the rest of you who didn’t just meet your woman at some office holiday party, here are some guidelines.


STARTING WITH BEGINNER’S FUCK

Vibrators can be a great tool for couples, old and new, who want to get to know one another better sexually. If that describes your relationship, you’ll want to get something fun your woman can use to explore different kinds of orgasms—and the below vibrators are your best bets. Just know that you might have to give her some privacy if it’s her first time “vibing.” As Koko says, “With all sex toys, I want people to ease into it.” In other words, don’t spring one on her and expect to use it together later that night. In fact, a gentleman would insist she take some alone time to get to know her new friend. (She might just invite you to watch.)

CLITORAL VIBRATORS
Delightful ergonomic wonders like the Fun Factory Layaspot and the LELO Nea 2 are perfect for couples’ play. “If someone likes external stimulation, these are great to use in a couples’ setting,” Koko says, “especially if the couple has never experienced or worked with a vibrator together before.” These vibrators fit in the palm of your hand and will cover the vulva or stimulate the clitoris directly. “Their shape is great because it feels like an extension of your hand instead of a foreign object.“

002 Lelo Nea 2

G-SPOT VIBRATORS
A G-spot vibrator is anything that stimulates with bulbs, curves or ridges. “The Slimline brand is a great start for women who respond to internal stimulation or internal stimulation only,” Koko advises. “If you’re shopping without your partner and you’re not quite sure if they have sensitive G-spots, this is a safe route to go.”

003 Slimline

The LELO Gigi 2 is another great option. “Its vibration has a nice rumble, but it also has a flat head to use externally and a scoop that’s great for G-spotting.” Koko says. “It’s a great toy for people to explore what kind of stimulation they like.”

Shops like the Pleasure Chest often pre-assemble gift kits around the holidays. For example, the Pleasure Chest offers the OMG Spot pleasure starter kit for $45. Koko recommends such kits for anyone wanting “to gift more of an experience, instead of just a toy.”

004 OMG Spot Kit


MOVING ON TO MORE INTIMATE

If you and your lady have already talked openly about spicing things up, or if you know that she already owns a vibrator, here are some options to kick the spice up another notch and surprise her with something that isn’t too intimidating.

DUAL STIMULATION VIBRATORS
Commonly known as “Rabbits,” Koko doesn’t recommended dual-action vibes for first-time couples’ play—or even a first-time vibrator owner. If you know, however, that she’s really into self-pleasure (even if you’ve never experienced it togeher), the LELO Wave is the “toy that does it all.”

006 Lelo Holiday Kit

Intermediate and advanced couples tend to favor the We Vibe Sync. “You can control it through an app on your phone or with the remote. You can use it for couples’ penetration, solo play and even a discreet panty vibe, since it’s controlled through an app.” Koko says this one is perfect for “long distance couples since you can control it over wifi.” Just imagine being able to make your girlfriend come remotely at her office holiday party or her sister’s Christmas brunch. Talk about a fun step to take in the direction of adventurous.

007 We Vibe

In terms of apparatus for men, Koko says, “Vibrating cockrings are always a great place to add a different level of pleasure for both you and her.” She recommends the Je Joue Mio, which sits at the the higher end of the price spectrum but is stretchy, boasts eight settings and is waterproof (for use in the shower).


FOR THOSE GRADUATED TO ADVANCED AROUSAL

If you’re an advanced user, you don’t need me or Koko. But if you’re an amateur creeping out of curiosity, or want to shift out of the intermediate phase into expert-level vibing, here are some suggestions.

The Hello Touch X is the upgraded version of the original Hello Touch and has four finger pads, for both internal and external stimulation and electro-play. “While I also recommend this for couples who are playing with vibrators for the first time because they can use it for massage, it’s really for couples who really want to step it up,” says Koko.

008 Hello Touch X

The Hitachi Magic Wand has been a best-seller since the 1970s. “This is your grandma’s vibrator,” says Koko. And it looks like it—but it’s also powerful AF. By the way, if you had a half-chub while reading this at work that’s now gone because I mentioned gram-gram, you’re welcome.

009 Magic Wand


LAST-MINUTE PRO TIPS

Finally, a few standard user tips care of my friend Jasmine, who deems herself a vibrator connoisseur.

1. Batteries are so 1990s. Buy something that is chargeable via a USB port.
2. Go for something waterproof and made from safe materials.
3. Lubricant is everything.
4. Communicate and find out if couples’ play with a vibrator is something she’s actually into. Like anything involving sex, consent is everything.
5. If you aren’t sure, ask. All vibrators sales are final.

Happy shopping, gentlemen!


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