The Playboy Advisor

June, 1995

My new girlfriend and I have never been able to climax at the same time. I come after a few minutes, and then it takes another 15 minutes to bring her to orgasm. Is this normal, and what can we do to get our arousal into sync?--Y.T., New York, New York.Simultaneous orgasm is crazy fun when it happens, but it's overrated as a sexual goal. (If God had wanted men and women to come at the same time, he wouldn't have created foreplay.) For one thing, nature is working against you. Researchers have fo...