Since the election of Donald Trump, we seem to be talking about sexual politics more than ever before. How can we not, with a president who’s bragged about grabbing women by their genitalia?

A few months ago, the #MeToo campaign—created ten years ago by Tarana Burke and popularized on Twitter by actress Alyssa Milano—spread like wildfire on social media, as women found solidarity in their experiences with sexual harassment and assault. People are discovering many avenues for resistance and protest, and it’s trickled from the streets to what we do between the sheets.

Individuals are evaluating their sexual partners with newfound scrutiny. And in Chicago, one woman is hosting orgies in her apartment.

“A lot of my friends seemed interested in group sex play but didn’t feel like they had an outlet,” says Gin Fizz, a queer, polyamorous burlesque dancer. After two successful parties in October 2016 open only to female and nonbinary friends, Gin decided to incorporate male-identified guests. Since then, she’s hosted an orgy every quarter.

Screening procedures tightened once men were involved. “If someone wanted to bring their male partner,” Gin recalls, “[the women and nonbinary guests] had them submit an OKCupid or Tinder profile, but…we started asking [the men] more specific questions about their feelings about Black Lives Matter and whether trans women are women, and who they voted for, and whether they voted. There became this quick cultural shorthand of ‘Do you value my body [and] autonomy?’ And if so, you can come.”

As the orgy draws near, Gin shares a Google Doc with the rules: start and end times, instructions to bring a towel and lube. Certain spaces are “no-fuck zones,” including the kitchen and outside balcony. Absolutely no photos or tagging on social media are allowed. “[Guests] are allowed to say I hosted the party…because I live a pretty loud sexual life,” Gin says. “[You can] say ‘I got pegged at this party,’ [but] do not say ‘Susie pegged me at the party’ unless you have checked with Susie and made sure that was cool.”

Rule number one: consent. Ask every time and every person. Voyeurism is expected to a degree (the guest bedroom has a “closed door” option for more intimacy), but Gin says, “If you’re going to masturbate, please ask.” She doesn’t walk around and enforce the rules, but encourages guests to come to her with issues. “I am completely unafraid to kick someone out of my party for not having good consent ethics.”

“A lot of people are depressed, and terror sex has resurfaced. Some people turn to sex when they’re scared.”

Before the party, participants fill out a spreadsheet with STI status, limits, and preferred name and pronouns. “You are called what you’d like to be called,” says Right This Way Robbie, a regular orgy guest who’s also a burlesque performer, also polyamorous and one of Gin’s romantic partners. (He describes his sexuality as “if I like you, I like your parts, whatever your parts are.”) In the weeks before, Gin hosts a mixer so guests can get to know each other, and participants communicate via a secret Facebook group.

The 18-20 attendees can arrive at the party within a two-hour window. There’s a (clothed) potluck, but once everyone gathers in Gin’s living room, the door is locked. Guests disclose their goals for the evening, and anyone who is interested in helping them achieve these goals can raise their hand. Everyone practices saying “no” to someone who draws their name out of a hat, to bring home the importance of consent.

After that, the clothes come off and dirty merriment ensues. In Trump’s America, this is how we party.

Gin hosted her first coed orgy the night of Trump’s election, and remembers “such a fun party and such a horrifying life experience.” At first, the mood was festive. “We did have the television on in the living room…and we would bounce back and forth between whatever was going on and the private rooms,” says Robbie. “And that got further surreal as the evening went on.”

“[When Trump won] Nevada was the moment that everybody just kind of stopped fucking, and we congregated in the living room and we were just like, ‘Okay! This is the reality we live in now’,” Gin says. “I said, ‘who can fuck me right now? I need someone to take my mind off this!’” Robbie chimes in, “So final numbers are coming in…and I am having intercourse with someone while someone else’s finger is up my ass, and I’m just trying to have as much fun as possible because somewhere in the back of my brain is whispering that the fucking world would end.”

Trump’s election changed both America and orgy structure. “I realized that we needed to put a really firm end to a party…so everyone had a moment of closure,” Gin says. “Now we will sit down and talk about what we were grateful for [during] the party. We didn’t have it [Election Night], so when it became too much for people to bear, they went home and they dealt with their own grief.”

Since the Election Night party, Gin’s orgies have taken on a more lighthearted air. “Group sex is ridiculous,” Robbie says, laughing. “There’s consent involved…[b]ut there is just piles of people and limbs and noises.” Gin agrees. “I will walk into a room and there will be four [women and nonbinary] people looking like a Renaissance painting, fucking one man, and I will just laugh out of sheer joy because it’s ridiculous and it’s amazing.”

Gin has also instituted themes, such as Myths & Legends and the ‘70s. Costumes are encouraged, and everyone collaborates on a playlist. At the end, participants vote on an MVP who is presented with a handmade crown. Robbie giddily sums up the experience as “Fuck Prom.”

Sex columnist, author and podcaster Dan Savage has also noticed a marked shift in sexual politics. “A lot of people are depressed, and terror sex has resurfaced,” he observes. “Some people turn to sex when they’re scared.” Savage, Gin and Robbie all agree that standards have changed. “Post-Trump, whether or not people voted and…what they have done with that vote has become so important,” Gin says. “If you protest-voted in a swing state, sorry…The fact that you missed that not supporting Hillary Clinton would result in Trump and thus a massive rollback of my reproductive freedoms and my general safety…the fact that you didn’t prioritize this in 2016 makes me not prioritize your dick [now].“

Robbie adds, “Voicing the queer parts of my identity, sexually, socially, has become more important for the sake of supporting people [who] are getting attacked by our government on a daily basis.”

“I do believe there are instances where you can fuck some sense into a person. Sex can be a way you bridge divides.”

“I do believe there are instances where you can fuck some sense into a person,” Savage counteracts during his interview. “Sex can be a way you bridge divides…you put yourself in someone else’s shoes, and you put yourself in someone else’s mouth.”

Recalling a former anti-choice boyfriend, he says, “it took many discussions and arguments before it got into him that [pro-choice] was giving someone the right to control their own body. I slept with someone who I disagreed with vehemently and passionately.” That said, “there’s a line, and I think that line is Trump.” Gin and Robbie will not cross that line either. “I have fucked a good number of men that were either Republican or Libertarian and made my own excuses about why that was justifiable,” Gin says. “Never again.”

Robbie agrees: “Even if having sex with somebody whose politics differ from you, doesn’t change your personal politics, it’s still…validating their existence.” Savage shares a phrase he considers especially relevant. “There is a lesbian separatist slogan from the ‘70s…‘don’t breed ‘em, don’t feed ‘em’,” he says. “And we should adopt that slogan about Trump supporters.”

In addition to planning orgies, Gin and Robbie have created a sex podcast, Getting Slutty. “We share personal stories, but we also take questions from other people who lead different slut lives,” Robbie says. Gin chimes in, “[The podcast] is mainly being really thoughtful about what it takes to have sex safely—emotionally and physically.”

Savage’s advice for seeking group sex partners is very much in line with Gin’s orgy screening process. “Do your due diligence,” he says. “Make sure everyone who’s there [for group sex] is there ethically, and not just about STI status.”

Mostly, don’t be afraid of the tough topics. “I think we all need to be having a conversation in this country right now about politics, so ask,” Savage emphasizes. “And if it’s a Trump supporter and white supremacist, don’t breed ‘em, don’t feed ‘em!”