We all know men are enchanted by a woman in lingerie, but most are flummoxed as to exactly why. Men tend not to talk of frills, lace or silk, but on a beautiful woman it’s a language they instantly speak. To explore this conundrum, we decamped with a Victoria’s Secret photographer and two beautiful women. We brought trunks of silk stockings, garter belts, corsets, camisoles and other diaphanous delicates to both conceal and reveal the beauty of the female form. Below, you’ll witness what we uncovered and learn what you need to know to help you the next time you’re in the market for something unmentionable for the woman—or women—in your life.

En Garter

Garter belts keep thigh-high stockings from sliding down. Unclipping them adds to the drama of the moment, underscoring the fact that all lingerie is a puzzle of sorts, a mystery that leads to the question: How does this thing come off, and who is going to do it?

Bare Necessities

A woman’s beauty is at its purest without excessive adornment and unnecessary layers. A diamond choker brings out the sparkle in her eyes. Simple thigh-high stockings in basic black cover just enough but don’t distract.

Stocking Options

Black thigh-high stockings highlight the curves of a leg, leaving just a flash of skin at the top. While the long seam down the back is an old-fashioned flourish in this day and age, the way it traces the exquisite contour of the thigh and calf is an anachronism to be embraced. Slip-on heels are designed to be kicked off.

Stay the Corset

The corset is the most powerful piece of lingerie. And if the art of the striptease is about the delayed reveal, the corset is the ultimate in access denied—albeit momentarily. Until access is granted, the garment’s structured shape accentuates the svelte hourglass contours of the torso. It can be kinky, it can be empowering, but above all it can be a dare to both people to continue to figure out their roles in the game that ensues.

Heel

A good pair of stiletto pumps adds height and conveys power. The high heels push the hips back and the calves out. Shoes can count as a sort of lingerie in their own right.

You Are Sheer

A lace robe or camisole represents everything we love about lingerie. It can be kinky or innocent, depending on how a woman wears it. Above all, it’s transparent.