The Playboy Advisor

February, 2006

My girlfriend and I broke up for a few months. After we got back together I found out she had slept with another guy. Can you explain how this can infuriate me and turn me on at the same time?--J.H., Buffalo, New YorkFocus on the turn-on. You like the idea that your girlfriend is desirable to other men, and it's arousing to imagine her responding as a purely sexual being as well. But when you start to think of her having an emotional connection (e.g., saying his name), the insecurity, anger and...