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BunnieXO has lived a million lives, from high-end escort to podcast host to stepmom of musician husband Jelly Roll’s two children. Now with a new memoir, “Stripped Down: Unfiltered and Unapologetic”(Dey Street Books), she lays it all bare, continuing a career built on unflinching honesty and undeniable charm—which makes her the ideal woman to answer all your toughest questions on love, marriage, jealousy, and everything in between.

I’ve had to stop drinking over the last few months, and my life has improved tremendously. Except my love life. I have no idea how to meet people without bars or how to talk to women on a date without abuzz. How can I get back into the swing of dating now that I’m sober? —Jeff K., Olympia, Washington

I actually had to go through that whenever I got sober, and it’s definitely a journey. You have to give yourself time, and you have to give yourself grace, and you have to relearn what you like sober, because what you like when you’re drunk and what you like when you’re sober are two different things. Go take an art class. Go dabble in something where you have to meet people and there’s not alcohol—anything that’s not in a bar setting. Go to church—go somewhere that you’re able to mingle with other people but not be tempted to drink.

My girlfriend is way freakier in bed than me. I’m down for whatever in theory, but in practice, I’m nervous. How do I get on board? —Liam N., San Diego

In my experience, confidence in bed isn’t about being extreme; it’s about being present and hon- est. You don’t have to match her intensity overnight. Ask what she loves, try what feels exciting to you, and say no when something doesn’t. Enthusiasm is hotter than performance.

I just started dating a woman with two kids. How do I get them to like me? —Brody M., Charleston, South Carolina

My biggest thing with building my relationship with my bonus baby— don’t use the word “step”—is let them come to you. Don’t force your love on them. Don’t force your opinions on them. Don’t be too overbearing. Just be that soft, solid, strong point in their life, so that they are drawn to you. They’ll naturally start gravitating towards you and feeling safe when they see that you’re consistently the same person.

My guy friends are obsessed with body counts to the point where I’m self-conscious about the women I bring around them. Should it matter how many people the girls I date have slept with? —Travis C., Fort Lauderdale, Florida

Sounds like you need a new group of friends. Tell them to grow up.

I’m never going to impress a woman with my looks. I’m not that tall, I’m kind of balding, and I’m a little overweight. So what’s my play if I can’t win on looks? —Connor S., St. Louis

Make a woman laugh. Looks are not everything. I’ve never dated a man for their looks. I’ve always dated a man for how he made me feel. If a woman is only dating you for your looks, you need to find another woman, because looks fade, especially when you get older. If you’re going to grow old with somebody, not everybody’s going to be hot when they’re old.

My girlfriend doesn’t post relationships “for privacy reasons” but puts up thirst traps almost weekly. Should I worry? —Nick D., Portland, Oregon

When I kept relationships private, it was either to protect them or to keep options open, and those are very different motives. You’re allowed to want clarity about which one it is.

Weirdly enough, my wife and I were having way more sex before we lost weight. Now that we’re both on Ozempic, it’s like we’re not used to our new bodies. Is it a phase? —Tom H., Arlington, Virginia

When it comes to sex, slowing down after weight loss and Ozempic can be tricky. Big body changes mess with your head and hormones. Add a medication that blunts appetite and it’s not shocking libido dips too. It’s likely an adjustment period, not a permanent shift.

My wife recently made some major career moves, and she’s getting a ton of praise for it—in addition to making way more money. I’m super proud of her, but I can’t help but feel a little weird about not being the breadwinner anymore. Do I try to level up my career myself, or is it better to embrace my new role as a semi-kept man? —Jace C., Milwaukee

When I dated after leaving the industry, I had to unlearn the idea that income equals power equals worth. If your discomfort is about ego, that’s yours to unpack. If it’s about ambition, then grow because you want to, not because you feel replaced. A partnership isn’t a scoreboard.

I’ve got a lot of baggage: some bad past relationships, a stint in jail, that sort of thing. My life is a lot smoother now, but it still feels like an important part of who I am. How soon do I tell people I date about my past? —Chris P., Dallas

I don’t think you need to lay it all out on the first date. But definitely start dropping tidbits on the second date, because you also don’t want to build a false pretense with somebody. If you know somebody has a hard boundary with certain things, you don’t want to, one, waste each other’s time, but, two, you also just want to be honest with who you are and what you’ve been through. If the person’s right for you, they’re going to love you and all of your darkness.

My girlfriend likes to wear low-cut tops and mini skirts. She says she does it more for herself and other women than for guys, but sometimes I feel like other men are judging me for how she looks. Should I care? —Lucas Y., Pittsburgh

When I dressed sexy, it was rarely about men and almost always about how I felt in my own skin. The only thing that mattered was whether my partner trusted me. Other men looking isn’t betrayal; secrecy and disrespect are.

My girlfriend and I are both partiers … and we tend to flirt with others after a few drinks. It’s a game, but she takes it much further. Should I be worried? —Noah S., Mexico City

This only works if the rules are crystal clear. Blurred boundaries always cause drama. If you’re uneasy, it means the agreement isn’t defined well enough yet. That’s a conversation, not a crisis.

I’m divorced and newly dating. How do I come off as confident and interested on the apps and over text without seeming creepy? I’m terrified of being screenshotted and embarrassed online. —John F., Scottsdale, Arizona

Confidence is calm and specific, not sexual and not pushy. If you’d be OK seeing your message on a billboard, send it. If you wouldn’t, rewrite it. Curiosity beats cleverness every time.

l’ve been in the adult industry for four years. I’m 25 and I know I could keep going, but I’m ready to pivot out. But I have no clue what I want to do. Any advice on finding my next thing? —Emily P., Los Angeles

The biggest mistake I see is people thinking they have no transferable skills, when in reality they’ve learned branding, boundaries, negotiation, reading people, stamina, and self-management at a level most corporate workers never do. You don’t find the next path by thinking harder; you find it by trying small things until something clicks.