prebate (v) to masturbate before a date in order to gain mental clarity or confidence

Jessica pulled out her trusty vibe and went to work prebating before her Tinder date.

Remember dating? Like, meeting up with attractive strangers and sitting in crowded bars? Good stuff. Now our dates are either virtual or socially distanced, and, for now at least, one doesn’t have to deal with the jitters that accompany meeting someone in person for the first time.

But back when we did, you might have been familiar with the act of prebating, even if you didn’t call it that. Prebating is the act of masturbating before a date or sexy meetup with the intention of clearing your mind, eliminating nervousness or just getting that attractive post-orgasm glow. The term may be new, but the idea isn’t. (An early pop-culture example of prebating comes from the 1998 classic There’s Something About Mary, in a certain “hair gel” scene that would live on forever in infamy.)

The benefits of prebating for all genders is obvious. If you’re meeting up with a problematic ex or annoying fuckboy that you want to be able to show some restraint around, having gotten your rocks off beforehand might stop you from making unwise, hormone-fueled decisions. If you’re meeting the person of your dreams, you’ll be able to impress them better without the hindrance of horndog haziness.

In other words, prebating can keep you cool, calm and collected in a high-stakes dating situation. Want to feel more in control? Then lower that libido!