There’s a persistent myth that oral sex is something men either “get” or don’t. In reality, great oral sex isn’t about natural talent—it’s about attention, confidence, and actually listening when women tell you what works. For a lot of women, the gap between “fine” and unforgettable sex has very little to do with anatomy and everything to do with intention.

Instead of a generic how-to written from the sidelines, we’ve asked women who make desire their business what truly great oral sex entails. Below, five Playboy Club creators give it up for going down. But first, creator Sarah G. offers some practical—even mechanical—advice. You can thank us later.

Sarah G.

There’s no one secret to oral sex that will work for everyone, but Sarah G. gathered some tips that will work for many. Here, she shares some “moves” you might want to try.

The “Humming Vortex” combo — Once your partner is aroused, create a gentle seal with your lips around the clitoral hood (no direct suction yet). Hum low and steady like you’re enjoying a deep bass note—the vibration travels through your lips and tongue without frantic movement. Layer in slow, wide “vortex” swirls (flat tongue pulling inward like a soft whirlpool) while maintaining the hum. The combo of internal vibration and directional pull hits deeper nerve clusters in the clitoral shaft for a rolling, full-body build-up many describe as “electric waves.

Perineal-clit bridge — Use one or two fingers to apply firm, pulsing pressure to her perineum (the smooth strip between vaginal opening and anus) in time with your tongue on the clit. This indirectly stimulates the internal “legs” of the clitoris. An alternate move: press on an inhale, release on exhale while your tongue does light side-to-side flicks. It’s a sneaky way to amplify intensity without overly-direct clit contact, especially for women who find pure clit stimulation too sensitive.

Breath and temperature tease cycle — Warm her up with your hottest breath (exhale slowly from deep in your chest) over the entire vulva, then switch to cool, pursed-lip blowing like cooling soup. Follow with a flat, warm tongue press, then pull back for another cool breath. Cycle three to four times before any licking. The contrast makes subsequent licks feel exponentially more vivid.

The “figure-8 infinity loop” with pelvic tilt — Trace tight horizontal figure 8s (∞) over the clitoral hood and upper labia with the tip of your tongue. At the same time, use your hands on her hips and ass to gently rock her pelvis forward and backward in opposition to your tongue’s direction. This creates micro-shifts in pressure and angle against the internal clitoral structure. Women often report it feels like “chasing an orgasm that keeps expanding.”

Post-peak “afterglow anchor” — Right after she comes (or thinks she’s done), don’t pull away. Keep super-light, broad tongue contact (no movement, just warm pressure) on the hood/labia for 20 to 60 seconds while breathing steadily against her. Many women can ride into a second, softer wave or extended aftershocks this way—it’s the opposite of the common “stop everything” instinct.

Drew Catherine

For Drew Catherine, the secret to great oral sex is treating the experience like dining at a Michelin star restaurant. “You’ve got to pretend it’s not a performance, it’s a tasting menu,” Catherin says. “Slow down, don’t rush! Savour the moment the way you would at a 5 star dining experience.”

Confidence is key for Catherine, and so is using your hands. Like you wouldn’t use only one sense for your fancy restaurant meal, she advises diving in with all your utensils when you’re down below. 

“Your hands aren’t there just for emotional support!  Sometimes they can even steal the show if you can use them to assist on the job just well enough,” Catherine says. “Work your hands into the fun, I promise she won’t complain! 

Pluto

Checking in and asking what feels good, isn’t awkward, it’s intimate. Pluto’s advice is all about communication. 

“Don’t rush into it, tease her! Be playful…kiss her, feel her up. Make sure she’s comfortable and in the mood,” she says. “Also pay attention to her body, how does she react when you do certain things? Don’t be afraid to communicate, it shows you care and doesn’t leave you second guessing yourself!” 

Cheryl Xin Xiao

While you’re paying attention to your partner’s body language, Cheryl Xin Xiao advises locking in on her eyes to see how she’s feeling, too. Eye contact, she says, will not only help you know what feels good and what doesn’t, it’ll also bring your bond deeper.

“I’d say eye contact is great, so you know what the partner is enjoying and you are more connected and in sync,” she says. 

Darla Bundus

Darla endorses the eye contact advice, and is an advocate for a little dirty talk: “Don’t underestimate the power of word play and being vocal leading up and throughout the experience.”

But her real pearls of wisdom? Don’t be afraid to break out the sex toys. Clitoral vibrators can act as an oral aid to really step up your game. Some men see vibrators as a foe rather than a friend, but Bundus says you have it all wrong. If you’re afraid to use a toy during any part of sex, she says: “grow up.”

Marianella Aragón

Aragón also likes a clitoral vibrator during oral, but for her, “physical contact between people is much more exciting than anything else.” That’s why she likes her partners to reach peak contact, and not just downstairs. “Touch her legs and breasts to provide constant stimulation that connects everything and achieves maximum arousal,” she says. “He could also stimulate her ears and even ask if there’s anything he could do better.”

As far as practical advice, Aragón says:  “he should concentrate on sliding his tongue down the center of the [vulva] to reach the clitoris.

Now, go rock her world.