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“In some cases the body into which we are born does not reflect the gender we are.” In PLAYBOY’s A–Z special edition, which was featured in the May 2014 issue, Rau made this bold declaration under the headline of “Evolution”—it was one of her first press appearances as an out and proud transgender woman. From the age of eight, Rau knew she was female, and by the time she turned 14 she was ready to live her life that way. After transitioning, Rau began modeling in France, which led to further globe-trotting and posing for iconic publications like Vogue Italia. After years of hiding her truth for fear of rejection and judgment, Rau decided to come out via a series of interviews. We’re glad she chose PLAYBOY as one safe space to do that. As part of our Pride celebration this year, we caught up with Rau to learn more about her journey.
What’s your coming-out story?
I woke up one morning engaged to a very rich man in Los Angeles, but he did not know I was trans. I knew that this wasn’t the life I wanted. I didn’t want to hide who I was to others, or more importantly, to myself. It was not an easy decision. I knew that I was going to lose everything: my house, my relationship, my money, everything. I called up my agent and told her I wanted to “come out.” I did a bunch of press interviews and photo shoots (including one that appears in the May 2014 Playboy), and I changed the trajectory of my life overnight. I absolutely do not regret my choice. I have never been so happy—freedom is priceless!
What advice would you give a fan struggling with their sexual identity or gender identity?
Stay calm, and stay true to yourself—don’t listen to other people. You have to pay attention to your heart and soul and listen to what they are telling you. Everything will work out fine. The world is becoming more open every day; we have the right to be who we really are.
I would also tell LGBTQ people to meditate. Meditation is like a phone call we make to our higher self. When we open ourselves up and use our third eye, we can find the answers we are looking for. Everything becomes so clear.
What is one of the most annoying misconceptions you face as an LGBTQ person?
It’s very hurtful and insulting when people assume that LGBTQ people live a depraved life. LGBTQ people have not chosen to be different—they have chosen to be themselves. It is courageous and fulfilling to be yourself!
What is your favorite thing about being a part of the LGBTQ community?
By far the best thing about belonging to the LGBTQ community is the solidarity. I could never have existed without the support I got from my trans seniors and sisters in Paris. They welcomed me, protected me and supported me during my transition. Now I have to be there for the next generation. We are a family, worldwide, and we are stronger together. Just thinking about it gives me goosebumps!
The world is becoming more open every day; we have the right to be who we really are.
Who is your favorite LGBTQ icon?
RuPaul, without any hesitation. She is the Queen of us all!
What’s one activity or moment when you feel the most yourself and comfortable in your skin?
I feel most myself when I am surrounded by my friends. It is so important to surround yourself with people who love you as you are, without judgment. To have a support system like this is still a luxury, but everyone should have it. If everyone experienced it, the world would be so different.